7 Clear Signs It’s Time to End a Friendship

According to some studies, only 50% of the people we consider our friends also consider us their friends🇧🇷 There are those who keep in touch with someone just to get something in return, or because they think having lots of friends is cool. But even if the friendship started with a sincere interest, over time that feeling may have worn off or turned into something quite different from what it used to be. Obviously, misunderstandings and disputes happen in any kind of relationship between people, but if a friendship makes you feel uncomfortable on a regular basis and only brings unpleasant moments, it may be time to put an end to it.

The Incredible.club list below, with the help of psychologists Susan Heitler and Sharon Livingston (the latter, author of the book Get Lost, Girlfriend, How I Found Myself When My Best Friend Dumped Me), the signs of a toxic friendship, of those capable of poisoning our lives for a long time. We also take the opportunity to reveal how it is possible to change this situation.

The person always emphasizes that your other friends are more interesting than you, telling you how much fun they spend together, just to make you jealous and make you feel sad and boring.

Your friend gets excited when it comes to telling you their news, but when you try to tell something about your life, the person will find any excuse not to listen to you.

Honesty is important in any relationship, and constructive criticism can be very helpful. But a toxic friend doesn’t care about your feelings, telling you it’s time you started playing sports or getting a better haircut. This person’s goal is not to tell you the truth, but to humiliate you. But such a friend will be outraged if you make a similar comment about him.

The person doesn’t seem particularly interested in communicating with you, and clearly invests little in friendship. The opposite is also bad, when your friend is intrusive and intends to occupy literally all the free time you have.

When you fight, your friend assumes that the fight happened because there was something wrong with you: you were the one who should be more flexible, less aggressive or something like that. With him, everything is always more than fine.

Your friend’s inconsistent and unpredictable behavior takes you by surprise all the time: yesterday you had a pleasant phone conversation, and today your friend totally ignores you, only later asking what you did wrong.

Often your friend is offended or angry with you. And that creates a constant tension, and you always end up policing yourself not to say something that the other person considers incorrect.

It may even seem that cutting a relationship that doesn’t do us good is something easy. But things are not always so simple.

Toxic friends also have some good traits.🇧🇷 Psychologist Yan Yager, in his book When friendship hurts (free translation), states that toxic symptoms only appear once in a while, while in other situations, such a friend is also able to offer help and comfort. In these cases, weigh the pros and cons offered by the relationship. If a person doesn’t keep his promises, borrows things and doesn’t return them, abuses your help or tells other people his secrets, is he really good company for a movie session or coffee?
The humiliating remarks are put as jokes, said with a smile on their face and accompanied by words like “I want the best for you”. When an insult takes a supposedly friendly form (known as a “double message”), it becomes harder to recognize. But don’t be fooled.
We are afraid of loneliness. Because of this fear, we often submit ourselves to uncomfortable situations caused by supposed friends. But if you don’t close yourself between 4 walls, new friends won’t take long to appear.
Many years of bonding and warm memories. Although now an old friendship only brings you irritation, the common past can leave you in doubt when deciding whether or not to walk away from that person. It’s like the end of a love relationship: you have to be patient and simply survive.
We cannot understand our own feelings. We can feel a whole range of emotions towards a friend: love, anger and irritation. In this case, only you are able to say what predominates and whether the friendship is worth continuing.
We think we deserve that stance. We often try to find justification for a toxic friend’s behavior, so we think something like this: “Is he right, and I’m a pain in the ass?” But when you need to be perfect just to be treated well, is that a good friendship?
A group of mutual friends. If you don’t want to force your friends to choose which side they’re on, then it’s best to avoid an open declaration of war and an official rupture of the friendship relationship. Try to walk away gradually, without accusations or gossip.

Friendship improves immunity and prolongs life. We believe that even love can end, but friendship is forever. Sometimes this way of looking at things prevents us from ending a toxic friendship. However, according to the researchers, such a relationship not only causes us psychological discomfort, but also increases blood pressure and causes inflammatory diseases. Don’t be afraid to walk away from those who don’t show an affinity for you. We are sure that, after that, new and true ones will appear in your life!

Have you ever had to put an end to a friendship? Leave a comment telling your story!