45 quotes by Bert Hellinger that go beyond Family Constellation

A curated collection of insightful quotes by Bert Hellinger, providing profound perspectives on life, love, and family constellations.

The Weight of the Soul

“The specific weight of the soul is equal to the sum of what was dared.”
— Bert Hellinger

Special Love

“So this is special love, which also recognizes the other in its love. He does not press him with his own love, but he also recognizes his love and takes from him what he offers.”
— Bert Hellinger

Acting in Harmony

“Whoever acts in harmony, even if it is against what others say, is good with himself.”
— Bert Hellinger

Learning Love

“How do you learn love? By experiencing love.”
— Bert Hellinger

The Criterion of Goodness

“The criterion for what is good is based on whether it relieves someone, brings joy or calms anguish.”
— Bert Hellinger

The Impact of Comments

“Sometimes a comment is like a pitcher of water to a drop of wine.”
— Bert Hellinger

Willingness to Take Blame

“Without a willingness to take the blame, a person is unable to act. Those who try to remain innocent remain weak and, in their attempts to avoid guilt, bring additional suffering to others.”
— Bert Hellinger

Harmony with Origin

“Whoever takes his life in this way is in harmony with his origin, in accord with his unique destiny, which is determined, in a broad sense, by his parents.”
— Bert Hellinger

The Family’s Influence

“The family causes diseases, not because people are bad, but because destinies act in the family that concern, touch, influence everyone.”
— Bert Hellinger

Embracing a Fresh Start

“Whatever happened in the past, let’s allow ourselves a fresh start now.”
— Bert Hellinger

Family Constellation as a Way

“Family Constellation is not a technique or method. It’s a way. A transition to a new level of consciousness.”
— Bert Hellinger

Reconciliation with Destiny

“Reconciliation with one’s destiny: I decide about my own destiny.”
— Bert Hellinger

Peace and Authenticity

“Peace begins where each of us can be the way we are.”
— Bert Hellinger

Constellations as Healing Rituals

“In a way, the constellations have a bit of liturgy in them; are a healing ritual. but not a ritual imposed from outside; it results from the dynamics of the constellation.”
— Bert Hellinger

Balancing Love

“Love only flourishes when balance can be restored as I give the other a little more of the good I get and a little less of the bad.”
— Bert Hellinger

The Path of Death

“Death will lead those who follow him, overtake those who flee.”
— Bert Hellinger

Reflection, Pain, and Growth

“When someone, after a serious illness, starts to reflect and calmly faces pain, death and loss… This experience gives depth to the human being.”
— Bert Hellinger

Communion Among Human Beings

“Deep down, this love is only the recognition that, despite differences, there is a deep communion between human beings.”
— Bert Hellinger

Love as an Achievement

“Love is an achievement, it comes from “doing” and from the knowledge of our own limitations.”
— Bert Hellinger

Honoring the Dead

“When you revere the dead, giving them a place of honor, you see the positive effect it has on the family.”
— Bert Hellinger

Facing Guilt

“No one can progress without facing guilt and accepting it, that is inevitable.”
— Bert Hellinger

Confronting Reality

“If reality comes to the surface, it is not possible to evade it. Even those who avoid it are no longer so innocent.”
— Bert Hellinger

Assisting Souls

“It’s not just therapy, it’s reconciliation work. In this sense, I am also a “assistant of souls”.”
— Bert Hellinger

Family Bonds and Health

“Love within the family can both cause illness and restore health.”
— Bert Hellinger

Love in Every Action

“Every child acts out of love. Even when disturbing, she acts out of love. You just have to find the point where love is.”
— Bert Hellinger

Depth of Bonds and Compensation

“It is not the family that causes the illness, but the depth of the bonds and the need for compensation.”
— Bert Hellinger

Family and Life

“Suffering within a family does not originate because the family exists. As is family, so is life.”
— Bert Hellinger

Taking Charge of Destiny

“Each person also has to take charge of their own destiny.”
— Bert Hellinger

Accepting Consequences

“You have to trust the person’s courage to accept the consequences of their actions. If she accepts the consequences, he gains, therefore, a special dignity, which he did not have before.”
— Bert Hellinger

Being and Life

“Being, that depth that works behind everything, is beyond life; Life, compared with being, is something short and transitory.”
— Bert Hellinger

Origin and Existence

“We arrived through our parents… We already existed, otherwise we could not become. And when we die, we don’t disappear either. We are just not visible to the eyes of the living.”
— Bert Hellinger

The True Path

“The true path leads nowhere… I just have to live.”
— Bert Hellinger

Wisdom and Actions

“Many of the New Age practices strike me as spiritual Fast Food…We don’t find wisdom just because we look for it; it blossoms as a result of many actions.”
— Bert Hellinger

Present Contains Future

“The present already contains what will come.”
— Bert Hellinger

Service and Purpose

“What makes the world go round is not our happiness, but something very different. For this we were called to service.”
— Bert Hellinger

Building a House

“Working with family constellations is one method. I can only build a house by placing one stone on top of another.”
— Bert Hellinger

Human Relationships and Death

“Every human relationship is at the same time a process towards death.”
— Bert Hellinger

Accessing Hidden Realities

“Through the constellation I suddenly have access to a reality that I cannot perceive through thought. Something that had been hidden comes to light. Once in sight I can try to find a solution.”
— Bert Hellinger

Soulful Sexuality

“Satisfying sexuality is also a soul process. If the soul is in tune, sexuality flows by itself, but the opposite also happens.”
— Bert Hellinger

Wholeness in Love

“Sexuality detached from the relationship loses its meaning of wholeness. Sexuality means fullness when it is the expression of a relationship. Love would be cultivated.”
— Bert Hellinger

Guilt and Repressed Action

“People do not get sick as a result of repressing anger, but as a result of repressed action that would lead to resolution.”
— Bert Hellinger

Anger and Inaction

“The most intense anger that arises is the fruit of fantasies. You get angry but you don’t act.”
— Bert Hellinger

Envy and Its Price

“Envy means wanting to have something without wanting to pay its price.”
— Bert Hellinger

Reverence for Parents

“The foundation of healthy development is reverence for parents, respecting what they mean, and moving forward with life. It doesn’t matter what the parents are like.”
— Bert Hellinger

Love vs. Indifference

“The opposite of love is indifference.”
— Bert Hellinger

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