15 Signs Your Partner Might Be Trying to Crush Your Self-Esteem

“Self-esteem” and “self-confidence” are different things, according to psychologists. A person may, for example, be confident in himself, but still have low self-esteem. This happens, for example, with some celebrities who are able to enchant with performances in front of thousands of people, but who, at the same time, harm themselves by adopting destructive lifestyles. And in a relationship, our self-esteem can be affected by the partner’s behavior, whether helping to build it or tear it down.

We, from awesome.club, we were surprised to discover that even the best intentions of a partner have the potential to cause problems in their lives together. How about taking a more detailed look at situations of this nature? For that, just keep reading our post!

Even if you are a person who doesn’t like to make decisions, maybe you consider it important, even if sporadically, that you both participate in choosing a certain thing. If your partner decides everything on their own, it may mean that it’s not worth consulting you because they see someone who doesn’t know enough about the subject in you. The person may also be wanting to show that they simply don’t see your opinion as something important. This tends to be reflected in topics ranging from choosing new curtains for the house to where to go for the next vacation: he always wants to solve everything himself.

Yep, it’s kind of cute when the other person says they love how you look when you’re tired, sick, or wearing that ratty sweatshirt. But social networks, in turn, tend to be public, and it’s normal that we don’t want to show everyone the photos in which we don’t do so well. When your partner doesn’t ask your opinion before publishing a certain image, we can interpret this as a desire to show you in a bad light, while he or she “appears more favored”. And that, let’s face it, has the potential to become a fatal blow to anyone’s self-esteem. Even if the other person says they only want the best for you, it’s always good to come to a joint decision about which photos of the two of you to post on the Internet.

Interrupting while someone is talking is very rude. On some occasions, the other person doesn’t even mean to upset us — they’re just excited about something or afraid they’ll forget what they have to say. But, in most cases, the interruption of a speech makes us not feel heard, as if what we have to say was not important. Is there anything worse than noticing that no one is interested in what we have to talk about? When this happens frequently, we come to believe that it’s not even worth saying anything. After all, what good would it do?

In some cases, the partner takes a contrary position on even the smallest things. It’s as if the person thought they were being useful by asking, for example, if the clothes you are wearing are appropriate for the weather outside: “Are you sure you don’t need to wear warmer boots?” And sometimes the partner becomes persistent: “Honey, believe me: you don’t want to change your job. Their work is cool and I think a lot of people would love to be hired by them.”

Initially, you might even find that comment cute and full of good intentions. But when the line comes up for the millionth time, we tend to think the following: “does he think I’m a child, incapable of making good decisions?” As a result of constant doubts, we began to question whether we were really able to act independently. This, in turn, undermines anyone’s ability to make decisions on their own.

Body language is a powerful weapon. It usually reveals a lot about the communication between a couple. Rolling the eyes, for example, indicates a posture of “what you just said is absolutely ridiculous”. It is possible that you, “victim of the withering look”, interpret that as: “you are silly, and I mentally despise you”. When it comes to body language, postures such as standing with arms crossed, looking at the cell phone while the partner is talking or acting in a distracted way can also be interpreted as signs of “I don’t care”, “stop talking” or even even worse.

Perhaps you enjoy singing or expressing yourself through any other art, albeit in an amateur way, and would love for your partner to support your aspirations. Or maybe you just wanted him or her to help out more with the housework or be excited about going out together. However, it can happen that the other person says that he hates art, preferring to stay at home to going out and assuming a body language that says: “I’d rather do anything than do your program”.

In a relationship, both parties need to support each other. Otherwise, you will interpret it as a message saying that the other person doesn’t care about the things that are important to you and that your happiness is not seen as a priority. That is, being ignored has the potential to ruin self-confidence.

In most cases, we tend to interpret constant suggestions as signs that the other person pays attention to us, that he cares about what is happening and wants to be helpful. But in reality, when a partner is too persistent in suggesting something different than what we’ve decided, we can be led to believe that we’ll never get anything right. Good intentions, bad results. On the other hand, if your partner waits until you specifically ask for a suggestion, it’s because he or she trusts your choices. And that’s great!

It is not pleasant when one adult talks to another as if he were talking to a child. You probably feel embarrassed and belittled when your partner acts like this in public places or even in private. Attitudes of this nature leave the other person humiliated, feeling as if they are worthless. If your partner talks to you that way, it’s because he doesn’t respect you the way he should.

Knowing how to say “no” is important and, according to psychologists, people should be better able to use that word. But, from the moment your partner or partner says “no” to ALL the ideas you have, it is because he or she has no interest in encouraging or showing support, which can be crucial to destroy your self-esteem. When hearing a “no” before any activity proposal for two, it is difficult for us to think that we had a good idea. Thus, the feeling arises that we are not free to seek our own happiness or what makes us feel good.

If you are always “on your partner’s toes” to check or redo everything he or she has just done, it sends the message that you don’t see the other as someone capable of doing anything right. Of course, it’s always good to check things out from time to time, especially when it involves security concerns, but in most cases, when the job has been done satisfactorily, you shouldn’t slack off on your better half’s efforts. And if you can’t stand it and want to, for example, wash the dishes again or rearrange the bed, do it when your loved one is not around.

Your partner suggests going to the cinema to watch that cool release or buying a new piece of furniture for your home. It makes you happy to think that you will have fun doing something cool together. However, shortly after, he or she changes their mind, suggesting to postpone the program or cancel plans without giving any reason why. Generally, situations like this make the person think that he is the only one to blame for the sudden change. It is possible that she wonders, “did I say something wrong that made him change his mind?” Behaviors of this nature also compromise the self-esteem of others.

This happens to many couples: when one of the people does well in a certain activity, the other feels “provoked”, starting to sabotage the other for feeling jealous of the other’s success. But postures like this are extremely dangerous for the partner’s self-esteem. Maybe your partner is always offering you help or giving you unsolicited advice just to show you know more and can do better. This type of interference prevents us from pursuing our dreams and achieving success, as we can become hesitant individuals. In the face of this, you may start to think that you will always need that person’s advice because you don’t have enough knowledge or skills.

It makes perfect sense to say that if your partner refuses to argue, it means that he or she doesn’t see that issue as something that warrants a fight. When the person always ends the discussion or says things like “I don’t even want to discuss this with you”, it is indicating that they always think they are right or that they don’t care about what you have to say. And situations like this only serve to create in the other a feeling of worthlessness. It’s okay not to want to fight, but it’s important to allow yourself to say what’s on your mind.

Your partner may be stressed about life, irritable about work, or worried about something. But taking it all out on you is not right at all. When the other person is always sad, upset, or impatient, you may be led to believe that it is your fault. However, the happiness of the other is not your responsibility and it is obvious that your partner needs to express their feelings. However, this must always be communicated properly to avoid an embarrassing situation created by lack of information.

If you constantly need to earn your loved one’s love and approval, you may end up feeling like you’re not good enough for them. You wake up every morning trying to get things done…