Often dating/marriage seems to take a little more work than we imagined, but then out of nowhere we realize that it was just an impression and that everything we are experiencing is very good and pleasant.

One healthy and quality relationship yes it can be achieved! But this requires effort and work from you and your partner.

We have a list with 13 steps to building a healthy, quality relationship to help you in your dating/marriage:

1- Be responsible for your own happiness

Save yourself and your partner the long hours of discussion by remembering this rule: it’s nobody’s responsibility but yourself to make you happy!

2- Always comply with your words

If you make a promise, keep it! When you promise something, do it! Don’t say that you’re going to do the dishes for dinner or that you’re going to buy him a gift and just don’t do it or say you forgot. This causes you to systematically destroy your partner’s trust. And the confidence is the basis for a healthy and quality relationship!

3- Admit your mistakes

If you know you made a mistake and you did something that hurt your partner then admit it! Be humble and apologize to him/her sincerely and without skirting the issue!

It is also important that you Commit to changing your behaviorbecause if you apologize and go back to doing what you used to do, your partner’s trust in you will only crumble.

4- Face the problems

Every relationship goes through its hard days. But what makes a healthy and quality relationship is the ability to face these problems and get through the difficult days together, rather than running away and letting these relationship problems increase.

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5- Listen to your partner

Often all your partner needs is for you to listen and help them resolve their problems and afflictions. There are also days when all they need is your advice.

Know which of these two positions your partner is going through and try to give him/her what he/she needs. Being a good listener is all about building a healthy and quality relationship.

6- Show your affection and love

There is a difference between knowing you are loved and feeling that you are loved. Sometimes we rely on the fact that our partners must know that we love them, even when we don’t show it.

Don’t rely too much on it. The best relationships use affection to show love.

7- Always be faithful

Make sure he knows that you will always be by his side. Put him/her first in your life as much as possible. Not that you just have to pay attention to him or her, or never speak to anyone again, but he should know that he can always count on you if he needs anything.

Also, expect the same fidelity from him/her. You deserve to feel valued in your relationship with him/her.

8- Never hide anything from your partner

Especially how you feel about him/her in the relationship – be it good or bad! In this way you will know how to overcome all difficulties and challenges together.

If something bad happened in the past and is still affecting you in the present, he or she needs to know. You should be able to discuss your sexual history as well. It’s a must before you decide to get sexually involved with each other. But you should make the person feel safe and unjudged, and you should expect the same from your partner.

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9- Give him/her the space he/she needs

Everyone needs their own privacy and a little freedom, so don’t constantly watch what they do. Everyone hates being watched, smothered and controlled.

Never spy on him/her reading his/her cell phone, keep looking at his/her activity on social media, following him/her around. If he/she is cheating on you, you will find out. These things cannot be kept secret for long.

But if you spy on him/her and he/she is innocent, you will forever lose his/her respect and trust.

10- Express your feelings for him/her

Always remind him/her how much he/she means to you. Everyone needs to be reminded that they are important and loved. This is very good and is very important for a healthy and quality relationship.

11- Encourage your partner

So he/she can be more successful in his/her work, or in his/her studies. This will make him/her realize how much you care about his/her future and want him/her to be one of the best.

It will also make his feelings towards you stronger, and he will believe that you are ready to support him in whatever he does.

12- Admire your partner and also praise him/her

Your partner will feel admired! Has your loved one bought a dress or changed her haircut? Have your say on such changes and brighten her day!

13- Message him/her in the middle of the day

A simple “Good morning babe/cat” can make a difference in your partner’s day. Send messages like “I miss you” occasionally. The person will definitely feel more loved.