13 Rules of a Strong Woman to Live Better

There are, on the Internet, an infinity of pages, videos and profiles with tips for living better. But many of these suggestions were apparently created for robots or for people who don’t have any kind of weakness. As if it were easy to wake up early, eat right without breaking the diet, exercise religiously every day and get an eight-hour beauty sleep.

Thinking about it, the Russian psychologist Polina Gaverdovskaya created her own list of tricks to live better and be happy. She shares them on her blog.

With the consent of the author, the awesome.club publishes this simple text that can serve as a support in the moments when you are about to throw in the towel.

1. All but next of kin are replaceable. Nothing and no one is unique. Let new people into your life, even if you still do not understand whether you have something in common with them. One day, you will realize that you were alone and that will save you.

2. Always try the new: food, clothes, routes, devices, activities, movies, books, theories and explanations of the Universe. The brain is made of a kind of “lazy chewing gum”. The more time passes, the more you’ll want to go to the same places and do the same things. Don’t allow yourself to get attached to the same habits, the same pleasures, paths, ways and tricks. Always try new things, especially when you feel lazy, scared or not feeling like it.

3. Forgive everyone you can and forget about the rest. Forgetfulness is the best punishment and the best cure. And never argue with anyone. Better get your nails done.

4. Don’t rush. Anything that happens too fast doesn’t last long. If you really want something, go after it. If you changed your mind, you didn’t need this thing. Postpone your desires and actions that have a certain risk, letting them “rest”🇧🇷 If you are not sure about the result of an action, only commit to adopting it if your desire is uncontrollable.

5. This point complements the previous one: if you really want something and consider it important and right, do it. Desire is life. Let the desire live within you and watch it. If he hasn’t disappeared, move on.

6. Don’t give up as long as you want something. Luck is experience, that is, a series of repetitions. Any failure is a lack of experience, which ends up being compensated with the experience you acquire. Courage and risk are experiences. What sometimes seems like sheer arrogance is experience. Persistence, tolerance, forgiveness, resilience and independence, these are all experiences. The most important thing: don’t give up as long as you want something.

7. Nothing has an end. Everything is flow. Remember this when you’re desperate, when you’re crying at a friend’s grave, or when you’re reading a letter from the partner who left you. Surely there will be a day when you will say: “this happened for my good!” (especially regarding your ex-partner). Nothing is the end: one day, you’ll realize you’ve been alone for a long time and that thought will save you.

8. Nothing is the end, but the end is near. And it is more useful to think that it will be tomorrow. This makes it easy to follow all those points I mentioned earlier.

9. Do what you want, but take care of your body. Otherwise, he will suddenly take revenge. Get in the habit of asking what he needs and follow his lead. If you’ve never listened to your body and don’t know how it talks, start with simple things like walking in the park, swimming, or doing yoga. Later, everything will run on its own: your body is waiting to be heard.

10. Romanticism, love and passion are precious. But, if you confuse them with sex, then you can do without it for a long time. And this is silly and harmful. Don’t stop passing. And let romance and love find you in bed.

11. The last thing you should worry about is what people think of you. Others think mostly of themselves. They also think of you, but with themselves as a measure. Do what you like and observe point number 7.

12. Be afraid of overconfidence. Overconfidence is the beginning of madness. Doubt, consider other options, leave the path of withdrawal open to yourself and others. I always doubt every point I wrote. But at this point, I think I’ll just leave it as it is. One day I’ll be alone and see if all this will save me.

PS: This is the only point I have no doubt about: take care of your friends. Friends are the only thing worth accumulating (I’m doing that for now). One day I will realize that I am alone and my friends will immediately appear and say: “Are you crazy? We’re here!” And that’s absolutely true.

What rules do you follow on a daily basis? Share your life philosophy in the comments.