The routine of letting the little ones sleep in their parents’ bed varies according to culture. In Asia, Africa, part of Europe, South and Central America this is relatively common. Therefore, if you want some privacy with your husband or wife and the child, already grown up, insists on sleeping with you, the time has come to solve this problem in a simple way and without trauma.
O awesome.club brings 12 tips to deal with this situation.
12. Create the habit early on
The sooner the child learns not to sleep with his parents, the better. This routine should be established, if possible, in the first few months. This way the little ones will miss it less and, when they are more aware of what is happening, they will already be used to staying in their own bed without problems.
11. Establish a routine
By releasing the bed one night and forbidding their children to sleep with them the next, parents sabotage any prospect of routine, something very important in the early years🇧🇷 Set a schedule to be fulfilled, a reading before bed, a warm bath to relax. No sleeping late at night, at different times and after hectic moments.
10. Dim the lighting
A dimly lit table lamp or socket light is better than the bright light or complete darkness that most young children are often afraid of. It is an important tip for inducing sleep and relaxation.
9. Attachment objects help
Naninhas, stuffed animals, diapers and pillows are great stimulants to induce the child to sleep, in order to ward off fear and establish the routine. In this way, the little one will begin to understand that, when he picks up the object, it is time to go to bed.
8. Avoid electronics before bed
Electronic devices such as cell phones and tablets can be taken anywhere in the house (unlike the TV, of course), which, in turn, can be a real trap when they are taken to the bedroom, for example. The blue light emitted by the screen of these devices can make children agitated and more alert, which can make it difficult to sleep. Hence, out of sheer tiredness, it is normal for parents to give in to requests to sleep together.
7. Encourage them to be independent
Try to encourage your children to be independent from an early age. This will impact not only whether or not they sleep with you, but other aspects of their lives as well. More independent children are more likely to become happy and fulfilled adults.
6. Avoid giving in to tricks
As hard as it is to say no to those cute little faces, think about the good you are doing to your psyche in the future and have the courage to say no when needed. Kids need boundaries and will thank you for ‘no’s’ in the future. They may cry for a few minutes, but they get used to it and it won’t bring any emotional damage.
5. Teach them how to deal with fear
Fear is something natural, instinctive of human beings. The child’s fears may even be silly for adults, but it is important to understand that they are valued by the child. Use strategies to help them overcome this situation. If they are afraid of monsters, for example, you can make an anti-monster spray to spray in their bedroom before they go to sleep.
4. Conduct the process gradually
Don’t wait for your child to be 10 to get him out of bed; if you chose to leave him in your bed for the first few months, start getting him used to the right place as soon as possible. If he comes back, explain that it will be for a while and put the child back in her room later that night. Keep doing this so that, over time, she can understand that the place to sleep is now in her own bed.
3. Use relaxation techniques
A warm bath, milk or another hot drink, relaxing music, a good story or even massages can help your little one relax and get used to sleeping in the right place. Also, contacting parents before falling asleep is a routine they will remember forever.
2. Talk to your child
Conversation is always the best way out for everything in the education of children. That’s why it’s always important to talk. Explain how important it is for everyone to have their own place to sleep and that he won’t be alone, as the parents will always be close and available to help. This strengthens your bond with the child.
1. Keep in mind that overprotecting him won’t help at all
In many cases, parents overprotect and are primarily responsible for their children not getting out of bed. The phase of starting to give children independence can be difficult, as some parents feel abandoned and unnecessary. But remember that your child’s education comes first and, if necessary, seek psychological help.
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