11 Truths of Life That People Don’t Understand

Have you ever stopped to think why people make the same mistakes over and over again? Even the most experienced and experienced time and again end up falling into the same old traps. And the reason for this succession of mistakes is the fact that sometimes we find it hard to admit certain truths that life imposes on us.

The Incredible.club resorted to the Quora forum to ask netizens what are those hard truths that we insist on ignoring.

Many “peace and love” people use this phrase, which has practically become a slogan: “You have to know how to forgive. Only then is it possible to start a new day with free thoughts and spirit”. What no one remembers to say is that forgiveness can take two different forms.

Mental: it is forgiveness based on overcoming your feelings so that you are in harmony with yourself. It arises uniquely within each one, and does not necessarily have to do with the person who caused it harm. It’s a noble feeling, useful and really necessary.
Of behavior: the question here is how you behave with the person who hurt you. Unfortunately, by forgiving them, whether for the first or the umpteenth time, you are helping the person to reaffirm the impunity of their actions. Therefore, to forgive or not, in this case, is a matter that only concerns you.

Okay, we know the title above might be a bit of an exaggeration. But believe me: it’s better not to wait for life to save you and instead fight to get what you want🇧🇷

The best example of this is the film “The Zero Theorem”, by Terry Gilliam, an eccentric Hollywood director. The protagonist of the plot sits by the phone all day, literally waiting for God to call so that he would reveal his destiny and the meaning of his life. Ultimately, the character realizes that God will not communicate with him.

Viewers need 2 hours in front of the screen to understand this thought. But most go through life without realizing it. Probably, just like in children’s fairy tales, we are left waiting for some kind of miracle to transform us into what we are supposed to be. However, you need to constantly remember this: God will not call you.

Paradoxically, successful people achieve success because they stumbled several times, they were rejected, disappointed and suffered depression, but they did not surrender. This becomes clear when we read any biography of great personalities.

For example, Stephen King had a special place in his office just to put manuscripts rejected by publishers. There were dozens of them.

About 95% of people with life experiences similar to King’s, when receiving unpleasant news (like a rejected manuscript, for example), make a sad face and say: “Well, that’s ok. It’s because it wasn’t for me.” The remaining 5% are like Stephen King, who move forward despite obstacles. This is how the selection process for a successful life works.

Since forever, from generation to generation, the idea has been transmitted that money is not the most important thing in the world: it does not bring happiness, love or health.

Now let’s analyze the situation and think cynically: at the end of the day, with money you are much more likely to be happy, loved and healthy. With money in your pocket, you will be much more likely to see the world, fulfill yourself as a person, impress those around you, find your soulmate or help those in need. If you need to gather the coins to buy a coxinha for dinner, it will be a little more difficult to do all of this.

Our brain is a really brilliant “machine”. With such a banal sentence, we will begin a far from simple reflection. The fact is that the human brain constantly justifies our inability to act (in other words, our laziness and fear). And he performs this task flawlessly, we must admit.

We justify the fear of changing jobs using stability as an excuse. Pride keeps us from seeking professional help for our problems. We stop doing something because we think we don’t have enough talent. We resist waking up early to get to class on time, telling ourselves that the body needs to rest an extra 5 minutes.

In general, we are always looking for good reasons not to do something. If you start to pay attention to this tendency of our brain and fight against it, you will run the “risk” of becoming a successful person.

After the famous film “Yes Sir” with Jim Carrey, a trend began to be open to the world, respond positively to everything that is new, enjoy freedom and associate saying “no” with what is negative and destructive.

In fact, the word “no” is not associated with what is negative🇧🇷 It’s all a matter of will and the rational choice of people, occupations and events for your life. It is necessary to know how to say “yes”, but, at the same time, not to underestimate the power of the word “no”.

Surely you must know at least one person so heroic that, after or even during life’s troubles, continues to live and work as if nothing had happened. For example, a daughter who doesn’t complain about investing all her savings to support her sick parents; a newlywed who moves on after being widowed; or a grandmother who accepts being forced to support a large and ungrateful family. Everyone, even seemingly happy people, has their own problems, it’s just that almost no one shows it.

So, in moments of despair, it’s good to think that you are not the only one suffering from the injustices of the world.

You will agree that at work, alone with your partner, and among your best friends, you are a three-person person. In each environment, we use more appropriate “masks” for that circumstance.

Therefore, it is not exactly a surprise when we realize that, at happy hour, that co-worker turns out to be something very different from what he demonstrates at the office. It’s not that he or she is hypocritical, it’s just that they changed their “mask” and revealed a facet you didn’t know yet.

Friends are among the most valuable things anyone can have. However, while in school days the number of friends usually exceeds the tens mark, it is likely that by the time a person reaches their 30s, they will be able to count their friends on the fingers of one hand. It’s obvious that no one is going to tell you to give up the friends you have, no matter how perfect they are. After all, who out there has already achieved perfection?

There are actually two types of imperfect friends:

The ones that exhaust you🇧🇷 For example, with eternal complaints, sharing unpleasant experiences or abuse in asking for your help in the name of “old times”. Most of the time we can even feel sorry, but the ideal is to break those ties. Or those who never offer help even when, figuratively speaking, you are on the edge of a precipice. After getting out of the difficult situation on your own, do not forget to rethink such a friendship.

Teenagers are not wrong when they say that no one understands them. No one fully understands anyone, as each person in this world sees their surroundings from their own perspective. Few people consider this idea before they start making trouble and blaming their loved ones for not understanding things that seem obvious.

11. Every friend or family member uses you in the most convenient way

(and you use them too)

In a way, everyone uses everyone.

The boss uses your professional resources, the lover uses your emotions and your body, your friends use your bonds, your ability to cheer them up, and even the possibility of borrowing money from you… whatever. Even your best friend is so close because you need communication, support, company and security, especially in difficult times.

People don’t need you just for your beauty and kindness. Only your mother loves you for these reasons.

What other ideas would you add to this list? We want to talk more about the cruel reality that surrounds us. Leave your comment about it!