10 phrases you shouldn’t say to your husband

Some things that wives say that they sometimes “escape” during nervousness and during arguments can sound very rude and stay in your husband’s memory forever. So, to avoid being impolite and encourage him to be soft with his words too, follow our tips and exclude these phrases from the couple’s dialogue.

“Take care of the children, but don’t do this, don’t do that…”

If you left that responsibility to him, trust your husband’s ability. Don’t criticize him before he’s even done what he’s been told. It is important, yes, to give some guidelines, but be careful how you say it to him. If you start the dialogue already believing that he doesn’t know how to do anything, it may not end in a very positive way.

“Let go! I do it myself.”

This kind of phrase can make your husband feel worthless. Another bad consequence of this is that he might actually let you do everything. So if he is trying something, even if it fails a little and with great difficulty, let him do it. Avoid taking the iron out of his hand and ironing the clothes yourself. Allow him to learn, even if it costs him a few burnt or wrinkled shirts.

“You never/always do that!”

Claiming that he always does something or never does something already gives the impression that he is immutable and that his attitudes will always be the same. Be a little less harsh and allow your husband to develop a few different attitudes. If you say that phrase, he might end up doing the same thing over and over again, from hearing it so much. He won’t even try very hard to change, after all, you carved in stone that he will always be that way.

“Well my mother told me you would be like this.”

This sentence, in addition to spoiling the mother-in-law and son-in-law’s relationship, can also open space for him to say the same. It’s normal for mothers to want to protect their daughters from things the future husband will do, but he doesn’t need to know that. These statements offend and mark for a long time. So avoid that phrase as much as possible (even if it’s true).

“When are you going to get another job, huh?”

This kind of pressure is certainly not going to bring your husband closer to you, nor will it bring you the expected job back any faster. Your husband is probably already pushing himself to get the job and doesn’t need you to stress him out further. So be an understanding partner and don’t cover too much of the results.

“But you are just like your father. ”

Comparing your partner to someone in his family in a pejorative way is not cool. Imagine if he said that to you, how would you feel? If you don’t want to be compared in this way to people in your family, don’t make those comparisons either.

“I do/pay for everything in this house!”

If you’re in this relationship to count every penny you spend and every effort you put in and then throw it in your spouse’s face, maybe it’s best to reevaluate your concepts. It’s not by acting like this that you will earn his admiration and respect for everything you do for your home and family.

“I warned you, but you never listen to me. ”

Don’t want to sound like his mother teaching her son what he can and can’t do. Instead of criticizing something he’s done and gone wrong, support your husband and be understanding. This way, it’s easier to get him to listen to you the next time you give him advice about something he wants to do.

“Your mother who left you like this. ”

One of the things that sounds very bad to any man’s ears is to say that his mother “ruined” him. This kind of statement is very discouraging and even offensive. Avoid complaining about the way he was raised, after all you weren’t there to know why things happened the way they did. Respect limits and forgive small flaws that you believe he has acquired because of his upbringing.

“This outfit looks really nice. ”

If you asked him if the outfit looked good on you and he said yes, don’t start arguing. The same goes for questions like “Did I get fat in this outfit?”. If your husband said the look was cool, thank him and feel good in that outfit. It’s not nice to be desperately asking if you’re really beautiful.

Now just avoid those phrases that can do a lot of damage in a few seconds and have a more pleasant coexistence with your partner. It’s possible that they sometimes escape in the middle of a fight, but it doesn’t hurt to make an effort to be more gentle with your words. That way, you encourage him to be soft too when he talks about you. Resulting in a more harmonious, peaceful and offense-free relationship.