10 Personal Growth Tips Psychologists Think are Dangerous

Personal growth trainings are a popular way to work psychological aspects to achieve success in life and work. In practice, the results are not always good. Often, these trainings can be bad for our mental health. In order not to become a victim of a deceiver, psychologists recommend prudently interpreting everything that these experts say. Check out 10 very common examples used in these types of training:

Their favorite piece of advice is to imagine that you already have what you’re looking for. This means that a person must have a great desire to achieve a goal, think about it and imagine the result in detail. This approach turns a dream into an obsession. Instead of living in the here and now, people distance themselves from reality and dream of an idealized future.

Stop fantasizing and think about what you can do today to make a dream come true. A small action can take you closer to a dream than pure and simple faith. And do not postpone happiness for later; look at the good things you already have.

Specialists in personal growth and development guarantee that a person can be happy all the time, if only he wants to. Therefore, they usually create an overly enthusiastic atmosphere and participants try to support themselves in this pillar in their daily lives.

Make no mistake, happiness cannot be constant. Let your body experience different emotions and don’t hide the negative parts; accept them. Don’t forget that life is made up of ups and downs and these moments must be respected and faced head on.

“If you don’t want to be a loser, set high and worthy goals.” That’s what coaches repeat aloud. Of course none of us want to be a loser and we love feeling like we’ve crossed the line. In addition, we tend to set goals at the top: a wonderful body, the most modern cell phone, a wonderful apartment, etc.

Perhaps you should think more realistically. Ask yourself the following question: what do I need? Will a huge apartment make me happy? Or with a small and cozy apartment? In general, we set these high goals just to show others that we can.

Trainees often say that any obstacle that appears in the way can be overcome. Again, just want it. The main thing is to remove obstacles to demonstrate to yourself and others that you can.

This point of view can be dangerous. Sometimes, it’s better not to resist and accept the situations that life presents us with.

Personal growth coaches claim that to be successful a person must always be with like people. If you want to earn more, date rich people, dress like them, spend like them. Personal relationships should be based on common interests and mutual understanding. Spending a lot of time with other people just because they are winners from a material point of view is an illusion. Among your friends, it is possible that there are people who have not achieved great goals, but they love you and do you a lot of good.

The essence of almost all personal growth training is to show people how limited their possibilities are. Specialists get it into people’s heads that the world is at their feet, making them feel like successful people. In the end, they all feel they deserve great worldwide recognition.

You don’t have to conquer the world, but you can make it a little better place. And that starts with yourself and the people around you. Don’t seek world fame, bring true satisfaction and create meaning in your life independent of others. And, if you really think you’re going to be president of the company you work for, think from a statistical point of view: how many employees does the company have and how many of them are the president?

Don’t give up your dreams, but learn to deal with the limitations imposed by life.

This phrase has become very popular recently. Nowadays, people say that success is outside our comfort zone, that is, it comes in atypical and stressful situations. Of course, when we’re in a strange city, we make a lot of effort to make everything work out, but that motivation isn’t always good.

A comfort zone is the personal space in which a person feels safe. Step out of the comfort zone, but come back to it to maintain your mental health.

Thanks to the advice of these personal trainers, many people imagine their lives as a straight line progression with great results later on. On the one hand, this can serve as motivation, on the other hand, it can make an unrealistic and superficial idea of ​​walking.

If today you were lucky, not necessarily the same will happen tomorrow. Life is unpredictable and everyone’s path is individual. Furthermore, falls make us stronger and failures force us to reflect on our current moment.

Coaches say that to be successful we must learn to think like a millionaire (as if they all think alike). This seems more like a desire to live someone else’s life.

Think any way you like. Your way. Each of the rich people thought differently and walked their own path. Find your secret and be yourself.

Coaches assure that everything that happens in a person’s life depends on himself: actions, thoughts and even circumstances. Taking responsibility and looking for reason in yourself is considered a position of a strong person. Trainers try to humiliate the other position by calling it the ‘victim position’.

Responsibility is a good quality, but within a reasonable limit. Sometimes circumstances are favorable, sometimes not. Remember that we live on this planet with many other people, and they all have interests and goals that can affect our lives.

There is no basic recipe for happiness. If someone says they have it, be suspicious. Even people who claim to be enlightened are confused by their own ideas. By the way: the guy in the photo above is Derek Medina, an American who wrote six books, among them “How I saved someone’s life and marriage through Communication”. He killed his wife, Jennifer Alfonso.

Do you believe in this type of training? Tell us in the comments.