Young woman refuses to pay bill for romantic dinner and causes controversy

Earlier this year, a Reddit user who goes by the nickname “CuteBananaMuffin” shared the story about his failed romantic date. The post caused a lot of controversy on the Internet. Other netizens were divided between those who agreed with the boy and those who criticized his behavior. After some time, the publication was blocked due to the flood of negative comments.

We, from incredible.club, we love a good date for two, and we believe that all situations can be resolved peacefully. That’s why we discussed with psychologists and other experts the controversy surrounding who should pay for the first date.

There are several signs that can indicate if a certain person is compatible with you. The requirement to pay more than 100 euros for dinner on the first date is one of them. One Reddit user revealed that this is exactly what happened to him.

After their first date, the young man asked if the girl would go out with him again, and received a very cross answer.

For the woman, it was important that the man pay the bill himself, despite the fact that she had ordered one of the most expensive dishes on the menu.

The girl felt that it was a man’s role to always pay for meals, regardless of the price and whether she chose the restaurant.

Netizens started a discussion trying to define who was right in history, but in the end there was no consensus. And what do psychologists say about the financial issue involving romantic encounters?

Many consider that paying the bill is a sign of invitation on the part of the man and acceptance on the part of the woman. Psychologist Enrico de Sanctis believes that money gains more value during romantic encounters. “By paying the bill, the man indicates his desire to seduce the woman. She already ‘understands’ the price of her consent”, highlights the professional.

An expert in etiquette rules, he mentions that the rule according to which “who invites, pays” has always existed. This applies both to one-on-one and business meetings: the person who made the invitation, whether male or female, always pays the expenses. However, it is important to take into account the mentality and traditions of each country. For example, in western European nations, it is common for the bill on a romantic dinner to be split evenly between the two. In Eastern Europe, on the other hand, it is considered that the man should bear the costs of the encounter.

It is interesting to note that, until some time ago, many women insisted on paying their share of the bill as a way of asserting gender equality. But Maureen Dowd, feminist and journalist from The New York Timesbelieves that today, more women expect the man to take this initiative, as a way of showing interest.

Psychologist Gabriele Traverso believes that paying a restaurant bill has nothing to do with equality or feminism. For him, the first date is the moment when a woman wants to meet a gentleman, ready to “protect” her from any problem. It is this posture on the part of the man that would reveal his willingness to assume responsibility. According to this logic, many men would see the proposal to split the bill as a desire to switch gender roles. They often refuse to lose part of their “power”.

While certain women view the requirement to split the bill as a sign of the man’s stinginess, it can hide the unwillingness to pay under progressive glares and excuses involving feminism. Be that as it may, for many men, paying for dinner is a matter of good manners and decency.

According to Traverso, a woman should not feel indebted because of a date. The man who trusts himself will not be disappointed if nothing happens after dinner. Just as the independent woman should not feel guilty or indebted to the man who paid everything, as both had some pleasant moments during their time together.

The question remains open. At a time when feminism has been increasingly recognized for its value, many couples split the bill even though they have a solid relationship. Only there will always be those who think that the true gentleman should always bear the woman’s expenses.

In your opinion, if a woman makes the invitation and chooses the place, should she help pay the bill? Leave a comment telling us what you think about it!