Why Making Phone Calls in Today’s World Can Be Inelegant

“Making a phone call as a verbal communication can cause stress for a person of any age. I, for example, do my best to avoid it, I prefer to communicate via emails or messages. In some cases this is inappropriate, such as example when you’re looking for a job and the employer leaves his phone number for you to call. Honestly, I must admit I’ve missed out on a few offers because I didn’t want to force myself to call”.

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Telephonophobia, the irrational fear of phone calls and telephones, may not be the problem of a single person, but probably of an entire generation. It turns out that in today’s world, where calls are among the functions that are least used, calling on the phone is gradually becoming impolite. Yes, you read that right: discourteous.

O awesome.clubin the face of the anguished allegation of the journalist from the The VergeThomas Ricker, and adding to the various arguments from Internet users, explains where and why this theory of bindings arose.

Warning! The article is not referring to urgent work calls or those with an impactful message, such as the birth of a child.

As the vice president of a large online therapy company said: “For many people, a telephone conversation is one of the most difficult types of communication, you have to think fast and react immediately to the caller’s words.”

This is the first reason for a negative perception of calls in the current generation: the interlocutor is deprived of freedom of choice. In this century, when human beings can write and give themselves the opportunity to think about everything, it is better to do so than to demand an immediate reaction from them.

What happens if a person absolutely does not want to answer? The phone screen will necessarily show the missed call; therefore, ignoring such insistent measures of communication would simply be impolite. Conversation in text messages can also solve this problem, because it does not force you to respond at that very moment.

If someone promised you something over the phone, you can never prove the fact of the promise itself if the person doesn’t keep it. And, in this case, the preference for written correspondence becomes evident again: any word can be confirmed because it is registered.

Previous generations got used to discussing even the smallest details on the phone. It is understandable, since telegrams, letters and carrier pigeons took much longer to reach people. But the current generation thinks that interrupting a person for a loud call that sounds at a bad time, to ask a small question, is something rude, since it can be written. After all, internet speed is much faster than a carrier pigeon. The recipient will instantly receive the message and respond when he has time for non-urgent cases.

If you’re an extrovert, you might yell angrily and quickly move on to the next point. Introverts will agree that in texting, no one can yell, interrupt, or emotionally manipulate. In written messages, we are all equal. Furthermore, through text, one can easily formulate complete thoughts and choose the right phrases without afterwards punishing himself for a whole month because he lacked the spirit, speed or imagination to respond correctly to his interlocutor.

Your phone rings when you are driving, in the subway, on the noisy street, at a party, at work or in someone’s company, when the call should not be heard by anyone but you. Can you relate to this situation? Chances are, after your tremendous efforts and attempts to find a quiet place to take the urgent call, you will hear, on the other end of the line, a news report that one of the Kardashians has given birth to another child.

With messages there are no inconveniences.

A free letter: It is considerably easier to ask a girl out simply by writing a message on her social media. With the help of a letter, it is even easier to apologize, talk about his feelings, confess to anything or even humiliate a person. Or even write nasty comments.

“Hello, am I interrupting? Can you speak now? Can you give me a little time? Are you busy now? I only called for a minute, I’m interrupting anyway, am I?” Therefore, the first moments of a telephone conversation can be spent on these explanations if you have time and are willing to listen to the interlocutor.

For that reason, it’s best to remember a simple rule of thumb: use messages for facts, use the phone for emotions.

And finally

In short, Thomas Ricker believes that such “phone-replacement” rules are an inevitable behavior of the future, beginning to emerge in today’s society. But at the same time, the journalist adds: “Don’t get me wrong: conversation is still IMPORTANT. I wouldn’t want to hear about a major event in a close friend’s life via text message”🇧🇷

What do you think of this future? Do you support these communication rules?