We enjoy little of what we have and highly value what we lack.

One of our biggest problems is that we enjoy little of what we have and highly value what we lack. Missing what we will miss later is a common and unrealistic way of thinking. about certain people and situations. Although our objectives are born from what we lack, it is a mistake to create needs for something that we really don’t need.

Sometimes, we make the mistake of calling almost everything we don’t have a necessity and an obligation to what we could really enjoy, such as people, feelings or situations. Thus, we miss many real opportunities because we prefer to fantasize rather than experience reality, possibly because the former is often easier than the latter.

In general, we enjoy little of what we have; and this tends to be a pattern that some, unfortunately, experience most of the time. Some experts in the field even speak of the missing piece syndrome to refer to that constant fixation on what we do not possess, sometimes even bordering on obsession.

Let’s stop idealizing and live truly

It is a reasonable and logical thing to reach one goal and think about the next. However, the problem comes when at the same time, we enjoy little of what we have. That is the key: the present moment, whether we like it or not, is the only thing we have and is the key to living fully.

Nonconformity is an inherent tendency in human beings, but it doesn’t have to make our lives miserable. On the other hand, motivation is vital and to a certain extent is instinctive. Now, this does not have to be negative, but if we add to chronic nonconformity the idealization of what we do not have, we can fall into a pit of dissatisfaction, creating a parallel reality ourselves.

Idealization often plays tricks on us. We long for or desire something because we believe that we will be better off if we get it; And in reality, we can’t know for sure what a situation will be like until we experience it. Idealizing is blindly giving a value, which normally does not later correspond to the real value. Being aware of all this is the first step to enjoying our daily lives.

We must become aware of what we have, what we are and enjoy what life offers us. We have to be careful what we seek and desire. There are no perfect situations, only the ones we put together in our heads. And that’s where the idealization of what we don’t have, what others have and everything we lack comes into play.

Hell is paved with bad attention

We enjoy little of what we have because we don’t really pay attention. Knowing what to pay attention to is the first step to evaluating it. Paying attention to the right things opens a window to well-being because He who knows how to enjoy the little or the much that surrounds him, has learned the true essence of life.

Valuing and appreciating what we have is essential to meet both our needs and those of those around us.

Next, we leave you an old story that teaches us the reason why we often live focused on superficial pleasures that we cannot achieve, while we miss out on everything positive in our existence.

“In an English castle there was a rule by which Visitors did not have to pay entry to be able to visit it, and that attracted most of the tourists who came to that place. Once inside the castle there was only one condition for not paying the visit: this It had to be done with a spoon in a mouth full of sand, and if not a single gram fell during the tour, it would finally be free. All the visitors, enthusiastic, accepted the challenge, and toured the castle excited about being able to reach the end without losing a single gram of the contents of the spoon.

As a result, most visitors did not pay the material entrance fee, but They paid a much greater price: not having been able to appreciate anything of the castle interior. None of the visitors who arrived with a spoon full of sand had seen the interior of the fortress, its valuable paintings, its architecture, because they had only been looking at their spoon so as not to spill the sand.

Therefore, don’t be like those visitors. Take your eyes off what you think you’re missing, and start enjoying what you already have today.

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