The situations we attract are a reflection of what we need

Have you ever wondered why you attract certain types of people or situations? It is probably due to your internal needs. Let’s see it in detail.

Our world is that mental terrain in which our fears, longings, desires and ultimately those things we talk about coexist. On the other hand, The people we attract reflect in some way the beliefs about ourselves and about the otherswhich we treasure.

Many times we let people into our lives that we would never have thought would have a place in it. People different from us whose task is to help us understand, heal and forgive ourselves and others.

Sometimes we attract people who push buttons we didn’t know we had. People with some characteristic that we cannot accept in ourselves, attitudes that we cannot see in ourselves but that we can see in others. In some ways, we may attract to those people to help us fight our own internal battle.

Complaining about what we have in our lives is equivalent to despising ourselves.

Why do we attract the wrong people?

Many people constantly complain about their love resume, but curiously they always attract people who do not value them, who leave them aside or who do not include them among their priorities. Thus, if you tend to attract people who lie and deceive you, think that it may be because you do not value yourself and that you have damaged self-esteem that projects you as someone small and vulnerable. This way, Your lack of self-esteem would be what makes you a favorable victim for them and what would attract them.

On the other hand, Allowing unbalanced relationships without a compelling reason is an unmistakable sign that something is wrong within ourselves. If we accommodate these relationships, we place ourselves in their circle of influence and it is likely that we will end up lying, deceiving and characterizing ourselves in a way that is far from how we are and even further from how we want to be:

Personal self-knowledge is key to attracting the right people into our lives

Why do we only attract the wrong people? It all lies in the fact that we are the reflection of what we attract, The level of value we see in ourselves is the same value that the people we attract tend to have. , because we accept the love we believe we deserve. Furthermore, the fear of change will make us look for someone with whom we feel comfortable, so we will always look for the same pattern.

“We live in the past and it is dead. If we live as we have lived until now, the future will be like the past. Work on yourself, change something about yourself in the present, then the future may be different.”

-GI Gurdjieff-

What we attract is what we need

The less evolved we are, the more complicated and painful situations we attract. When we attract conflictive people or situations, we are actually attracting change and personal evolution. The greatest learnings come from times of crisis, As Seneca said, adversity is an opportunity for virtue.

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True maturity involves accepting that everything that happens to us is perfect because it is in its process towards perfection. Appreciating that the problems we have to a large extent are an opportunity to grow will help us improve. On the contrary, seeing them as a failure is only a way of throwing dirt on our aspirations.

Think about it, without rejection, without abandonment, without rejecting or abandoning, would you be the same person you are today? At least in my case, Without all the negative things I have had to overcome today I would not be able to enjoy life. the way I do it.