Solitude despite the company

It is not necessary to be alone to feel the cold of loneliness enveloping our minds and hearts. Sometimes, there is no greater loneliness than having someone next to us, someone who does not satisfy our needs. That does not provide understanding, nor support… not even company.

Nowadays we live in a time where social relations are changing. New technologies allow us to interact with many more people, people we don’t have the need to see in person. But does this cover the feeling of loneliness? Absolutely.

Loneliness has as many nuances as the needs that each person may have.. There are those who feel fulfilled with this dimension, finding themselves and exploring their own personality and their own possibilities. On the other hand, there are those who are unable to conceive life without someone by their side, someone to support their decisions, someone to whom they can express their thoughts and needs every day. We are clear about this. But the most painful nuance is undoubtedly feeling the sting of loneliness when we are in company.. When we see that whoever is next to us, he does not give us anything emotionally.

THE NEED FOR AFFILIATION

It was the psychologist Abraham Maslow who defined the pyramid theory of human needs, establishing filiation or the need to belong, as the third link on the scale just after the need for food.. And the reality is this. We all need someone’s attachment, that of our parents to grow and mature harmoniously in our childhood, and later, the value of friendship and the emotional support of a partner.

We all feel the need to trust someone. But this would be where the differences begin to emerge. There are people for whom a single friendship or a small, stable group is enough to interact with. Others, however, like to venture into new areas to meet new people, friends with whom to satisfy the need for affiliation, although sometimes the void is still present. Because no one manages to cover one’s own needs. It is then that the fear of loneliness arises, seeing that no one seems to cover these nooks and emptinesses.…

DEFEND YOURSELF AND UNDERSTAND LONELINESS

Loneliness despite the company. One of the most characteristic examples is that of that person who, despite having a partner, despite having someone with whom she wakes up every morning, feels an abyss of distance between one and the other.. People who do not contribute, who do not support, who do not value. How to deal with this situation? Establishing priorities. Living with someone who does not know, cannot or does not want to provide us with that emotional support will surely end up destroying our own integrity. Sometimes, loneliness with someone is much more painful than individual loneliness. And do not be afraid.

Individual loneliness can be a necessary opportunity, a crank that opens the door to ourselves to grow individually, to become stronger. Solitude is not always a stranded island without a horizon, sometimes it is a boat where you can let yourself be carried away to an ocean of new possibilities.