People without a filter: sincerity misunderstood

People without a filter do not know how to inhibit their feelings, thoughts or emotions. That’s why, They blurt out the first thing that comes to mind, without considering the consequences of what they share. They often hide behind their incorruptible sincerity, but be careful! The truth should not be confused with judging others in an unpleasant way, without any basis and without anyone having first asked for their opinion.

It is true that the basis of any lasting personal relationship is sincerity. Being honest means saying what you think, but with respect, affection and in the appropriate context.. For example, if you don’t like your best friend’s new haircut, it is better to tell him “everything looks good on you, but the one you had is more flattering on you.” Rather than simply saying “I don’t like anything, I prefer the other”. They are two ways of saying the same thing, but one can hurt sensibilities and the other can even encourage.

They talk and then they think

People without a filter do not put their words through the sieve of reflection. They release their truth and then observe the extent of its consequences. If they harm others, they hide behind what they consider their main virtue: always telling the truth. They are adults who do not doubt their word and who take sincerity to extreme levels. When there is an embarrassing situation; they will make it even more uncomfortable.

For this reason, they rarely bite their tongue and they don’t usually stay with the desire to say something. His inkwell is empty. They are normally very active, they boast of their extroversion and cannot stand silence. And if they exist and are prolonged, they break them by saying the first thing that comes to mind.

Loved and hated in equal parts

However, when someone needs a friend to tell them things clearly, they are always at the top of their list. There are times when It is essential for us to listen to someone tell us what the majority really thinks. And, in these cases, people without a filter are very precious, mainly because the rest of the group usually trusts their honesty.

But, if, on the other hand, when faced with a delicate and painful moment, they do not measure their words, they can be truly abhorrent. They tend to make firewood from fallen trees. Therefore, as we see, Their sincerity is highly valued in some cases, but also greatly feared in others.

They tend to be very radical in their decisions

For people without a filter, there are no half measures. Either everything is black or white. And furthermore, they seek others to be just like them; In fact, they do not understand that they are any other way. They express their opinion openly, without fear of what others may think. But also, They challenge others to express with the same sincerity his stance. And the sooner, the better. Somehow, the rest are forced to say something that, without that pressure, they would not say.

They have the last word

If you ever try to propose a plan, try to get unfiltered people to agree with you. Because, unfortunately, they usually have the last word in the decisions that are made. AND If they are not satisfied, they express their disagreement and try to get everyone on their side.. They tend to master manipulation, because they handle themselves well in social environments. It is good to have them as allies, while they are fearsome as enemies.

How to act with them?

Shy people are usually afraid of them. They will remain silent in the face of their inclemencies and will assume any decision they make for them. Therefore, to avoid such intimidation, It is necessary to carry out a supreme exercise of diplomacy.

People without a filter don’t pay much attention to details. Their attention tends to focus very quickly on what is important to them. That’s why it works well make them believe that they are the ones who have the final say in a decision; although, in reality, it was someone else who had previously and implicitly taken it.

Besides, It is advisable to let them see that a conversation is making us uncomfortable or that we don’t want to do something that she is almost forcing us to do. It is not about avoiding contact with her, but about confronting her, with respect and restraint.

For example, “I think right now is not the best time to talk about this, we will solve it another time.” “It is preferable that I think about it calmly and then inform you of my decision.”

It is not advisable to get down to their level, because it would lead to an escalation of atrocities commonly known as “sincericide.” Something like dying while killing, through misunderstood sincerity.

Actually, a person always does a preliminary exercise before speaking. It lasts milliseconds, but it is key to evaluating what we are going to say. If our words do not bring anything pleasant or good, it is better to remain silent. Because sometimes, their absence is better and more gratifying than a totally inappropriate phrase.

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