Learn to let go, to allow ourselves to receive

Sometimes, Letting go is not necessarily a sacrifice or goodbye, but rather a “thank you” for everything you have learned. It is letting go of what no longer supports itself to allow ourselves to be more free and authentic and thus receive what has to come.

If we think about it for a minute we will realize that the best decisions, those that are followed by a state of pleasant happiness, involve precisely having to drop something. It may be a fear, anguish, putting distance from a place or even a person. Renunciation is part of the process of life. It is something natural, because everyone We are forced to choose what and who we invest our time and effort in.

A fact to keep in mind is that the act of letting go, in itself, does not only imply cutting those ties that block personal growth and happiness. Letting go means in certain cases having to let go and reformulate many of our psychological constructs.such as ego, resentment, or even the fear of loneliness.

Because whoever wants to receive, must have their heart prepared to accommodate that nobility that does not understand selfishness or interior storms.

Ambition and the need to accumulate

In today’s society we have associated the achievement of certain things with the idea of ​​happiness. “I will be happy when I take that trip, when I have a partner, when I have my own house, when my salary is increased, when I have a new car, a new phone, when I lose a few kilos, when the new season of my favorite series premieres…”

We buy books and more books to learn to be happy while we wait for something to change, while we wait for at some point everything accumulated to offer us the answer we expect. Frédéric Beigbeder, a famous French writer, creative and publicist, once said that In the world of advertising, no one wants people to be happy.. Simply because happy people “don’t consume.”

Happiness is something that modern societies sell to us as an “illusion”, something that must be brief and ephemeral to force us to consume more. Hence the “planned obsolescence” of electronic devices, hence the idea that to be happy you have to be attractive and wear certain clothes, have many friends, and look for ideal love on dating sites, where relationships can begin. today and discarded tomorrow in a single «click».

We have created a world where values ​​such as ambition and pathological nonconformity completely distance us from the authentic meaning of happiness. We live pending what we lack, without realizing everything that we actually have left over.. Everything that we should let go of to balance the balance, to be ourselves.

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What do we cling to?

Even knowing it, it is often difficult for us to let go of what we are tied to. It may be a relationship that is not good for us, or the memory of an emotional bond that has already ended. These may be inflexible routines or customs that we would like to change, however, we never find the will to undertake the change. We can be tied to situations that do not contribute to our personal growth but that we maintain for fear of assuming the consequences that releasing them may bring. Or we may even remain clinging to negative thoughts or a distorted image of ourselves.

In any case, Everything we cling to responds to something we must work on in ourselves. Perhaps recognizing our attachments becomes an invitation to strengthen our self-esteem, to become more aware of everything around us, to be braver and decide to take the risk of pursuing our dreams.

To be happy you have to make decisions and… Release

Life is too short to live permanently frustrated. Therefore, and if we really want to be happy, we must be able to make decisions, to know what and in whom we want to invest our time. Now, as you can already guess, deciding often involves having to give up, an exercise that must be be done consciously and maturely, assuming the consequences.

To help you on the complex path of renunciation and the art of letting go, it is worth remembering that For Buddhist philosophy, happiness is nothing more than a mental state of calm and well-being. So, pay attention calmly and wisely to everything that surrounds you to intuit what offers you serenity and what noise, what and who nourishes your soul with respect and what or who brings you storms on clear days. Decide, choose, trust your instinct and simply let go.

Another aspect that must be remembered is whoever has the courage to let go must also be worthy to receive. Hence, it is worth reflecting for a few moments on these dimensions:

We must give up our need to always maintain control over others.. It is necessary to “be” and “let be.” Whoever demands personal freedom to grow must be able to offer it.Give up the need to always be right. To assume misunderstanding is to grow and knowing how to remain silent when the moment requires it is an act of wisdom.Let go of your ego, free yourself from the need to impress, from having to compete., to demand attention when no one is watching you, to seek any false company when you fear loneliness. Let go of your fear to allow yourself to be authentic, to be yourself, that person who is as capable of giving as he is of receiving.

In conclusion, in this complex but exciting daily struggle to be happy, all of us should practice the healthy exercise of let go of what weighs us down, love what we already have and be grateful for all the good things that, without a doubt, are yet to come.

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