How to protect ourselves from toxic people

There are many types of toxic people: envious, jealous, possessive, pessimistic, authoritarian, manipulative, etc. with which we have to live every day at work, in a group of friends or in the family. Toxic people can be present in all areas.

In us, in our attitude and in knowing how to deal with them is the secret so that they do not influence us negatively. Letting them invade our thoughts and not letting us breathe or letting them cause us discomfort is something that we can avoid if we want. Learn to protect yourself from toxic people.

“Many times we allow gossipers, envious people, authoritarian people, psychopaths, proud people, mediocre people, in short, toxic people, wrong people who constantly evaluate what we say into our inner circle. and what we do, or what we don’t say and don’t do”

-Bernardo Stamateas-

Feelings caused by toxic people

“How bad I feel next to him. It makes me feel uncomfortable, I’m not myself. I always see a look of suspicion on him. If I mention the slightest triumph in my life, even in passing and without much fuss, I notice her jealous, uncomfortable, annoying.

I feel like he’s not happy about anything that happens to me. I think that always lives in a kind of competition like little children when they say… “and me more”. And I… I’m letting myself get infected.

The truth is that I feel deeply relieved when she is not there. I am myself, I feel happy, I don’t have to hide who I am, or the good things that have happened to me today. So how do I do it?

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She is not positive for me, but certain common ties unite us and it is not so easy to distance myself from her presence. In one way or another she is always present in my life. I think I’m even obsessing over this situation.”

This is the story of a person who has a relationship with someone who is toxic to them. Fear, insecurity, discomfort, helplessness or sadness are emotions induced by toxic people.

In general, people who allow themselves to be influenced by toxic people or who live with some of them can be invaded by a kind of feeling of overwhelm, impulse and overwhelming discomfort when they are with them… They can even create a certain dependency…

“Let go of people who only come to share complaints, problems, disastrous stories, fear and judgment of others. If someone is looking for a bucket to put their trash in, make sure it’s not your mind.”

-Dalai Lama-

How to let toxic people not influence us

Stop giving it so much importance. Toxic people are there, okay, but are you going to let them ruin your fun time? When you realize that it doesn’t affect you internally, that you handle the situation, you will feel happy with yourself. Walk away singing softly. What good is fighting or “burning yourself out” talking about that person to others? Just forget it; make your life, get away Singing softly whenever you can and wish them the best. Get used to living with them. You will always not be able to get away from these people. They are in your family, in your group of friends, at work. They are there and what? You go about your business, don’t get into controversy or try to please them. Let him say what he wants, do what he wants… meanwhile, you, get closer to good people and don’t forget that there are also good people around you.Be cautious with them. Don’t tell your secrets, your things, that’s what people who are happy for you, who encourage you, who love you, are there for. Don’t talk about her when she’s not there. The more you talk about it, the longer it will be installed in your head, in your space and in your time. Do you think she’s worth it?forgive her. Do you know the benefits of forgiving others for yourself? Forgive her, it is very possible that some of your headaches or stomachaches will end. Many of our concerns become somatized. Don’t you think it’s time to look after yourself and your health? Don’t you think you’re harming yourself foolishly?Practice the meditation and other forms of release. Meditate, walk, listen to music, they are powerful weapons that free our mind from negative thoughts.Analyze what toxic people provoke in you and try to change it. Anger, suspicion, hatred, fear? Be your own psychologist, recognize your feelings and don’t allow them anymore. In the end, the one who is suffering and having a hard time is you, don’t you realize?

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When you really feel that toxic people no longer affect you, you will be truly happy with yourself. and that’s what really matters. The ability to be with yourself despite the circumstances…