How to make a man beg you, 14 tips to become irresistible

Passion can burn when you start dating. But over time, the excitement of the new wears off, and attention tends to scatter. Suddenly the attraction seems to fade.

What happens then?

The good news is that all is not lost, not at all. Do you want to know how to make a man beg you?

But I have a warning, because once you apply everything that we will share with you, you will not be able to take it away from you.

There are several tried and true ways to keep your boy desperate for you.

You can make sure that he doesn’t run away before his love story begins.

Here I share the 14 keys to be irresistible and that he begs to be with you.

1) May your relationship with yourself be the best relationship you have

As the shaman Rudá Iandé teaches in the Out of the Box workshop, integrating and loving ourselves is the first step to finding true love and purpose in life.

The truth is that the first and most important relationship you must cultivate is that with yourself.

Of the countless courses that I have seen online, this has been the one that most caught my attention, due to its innovative approach.

It made an incredible difference to me in all areas of my life. Mainly in understanding myself and I’m sure it can do the same for you.

Going deep and looking at our ancestors, experiences and inner perceptions to truly embrace self-love and recognize who we are, is really something on a primal existential level.

If you have trouble loving yourself, it’s very difficult for someone else to love you.

Before this man begs to be with you, you are the one who must be yearning to be with you for the long haul.

Traumatic experiences when we are younger and as we grow, live and love can break our connection to our true selves.

Loving yourself is so much more than positive affirmations or positive thinking. It’s about getting back in touch with our living, breathing essence and truly appreciating the miracle that we are.

Your man will respond with very strong emotions and love when he sees that you fully value and accept yourself.

You don’t have to be perfect or have no problems, that’s not what it’s about at all, just be filled with deep honesty and a deep commitment to loving and caring for yourself.

You are worthy of love. When you believe and feel this on a deep level. Your boy will feel it too.

2) Activate his hero instinct

Many women haven’t heard of the hero instinct yet.

The crucial lesson of this concept teaches how men are attracted to and committed to in a romantic relationship.

The simple explanation of the hero instinct is that it is the deep biological impulse that men have to be heroes and protectors of their women.

What is this the Stone Age? I can hear you asking this right now.

The truth is that men and women are different in several fundamental biological and psychological aspects.

And this is good.

Not that you need to compliment your guy every time he brings groceries inside.

You will ask yourself: How to trigger the hero instinct in my boy?

The best thing you can do is watch this excellent free video by relationship psychologist James Bauer.

Describe the things you can say or do to make him feel like your hero and not be able to conceive of being away from you.

Here is a link to the free video again.

It’s about showing him that you need him. To appreciate it in simple ways that will activate all the deeply rooted senses of romance and commitment within you.

If you just make him feel like an equal partner whose help doesn’t mean much to you, chances are his hero instinct won’t kick in.

Sooner or later he would go looking for a woman who makes him feel that protective instinct.

3) Break the routine

Having a schedule and a daily routine can be comfortable, but it can also be boring.

After enough time of snuggling up and watching “your show” after dinner and having a date on Friday, you may be reaching a point where things are getting a little repetitive.

The initial stages of your romance are over, it’s normal.

It is a crucial moment, where it is important to break that old routine a bit.

Go for a walk in nature, see an amazing concert, try some cooking classes together.

Treat him to a surprise skydiving session if that’s his thing!

Whatever you do, change things up a bit.

Maybe you decide to go camping for the weekend and take a canoe trip on the lake.

It’s romantic and good exercise. Why not try it?

4) Be independent and direct

No guy wants to be in it for the long haul with a girl who treats him badly, that’s for sure.

But neither will he feel the hero’s instinct kick in and his deepest love emerge for a girl who doesn’t do what he wants or acts needy and dependent.

You want to embrace your strong woman side a bit.

Now this is a balancing act.

You don’t want to be too pushy or indifferent like an action hero.

You want to show him that you need him and let your guy be the hero.

But you also want to be yourself and stand your ground. Show him that you have certain expectations and comfort zones.

A man will respond very positively and increase his long-term commitment to a woman who will hold him to a high standard. Someone who allows him to become the best version of him.

Don’t call him out publicly or go on a two-hour rant about dirty dishes. But be firm and show him that you can hold him up to your ideals, even if it means you won’t always be completely “nice.”

Sure, guys like to be treated well, but they also like to earn respect and love.

Showing your guy that you are a woman who demands respect and has high standards will make him work on improving himself and thinking about committing to you long term.

5) Mealtime is couple time

One mistake that many couples make is that they stop cooking and eating together.

Mealtimes turn into TV dinners or takeout eaten while waiting in traffic.

Time together turns into a half groggy nap on the couch or a quick call before bed.

If you want a man to stay with you for a long time, you have to find your way to his heart. Have you ever heard that it’s through his stomach? Well, many empirical tests corroborate it.

So, cook together, cook for him, let him cook for you.

Whatever: Do your best to eat together at least a couple of times a week and make it a good occasion.

Light a candle or two, maybe even put on some light music.

Create that relaxed atmosphere where love can blossom instead of a rushed task that you just want to get done.

Take some culinary trips to that wine country or visit small cafes and restaurants that you like.

Make mealtime a couple thing. You’ll create a lifetime of special memories and you’ll also get to savor amazing food.

6) Make him laugh

Laughter can be a love activator.

It’s amazing what laughing and laughing together can do in a relationship.

Your level of attraction can be incredible. They can agree on every issue and share life goals. He can tell that he is all the way with you.

But if you don’t laugh together, you’re missing out big time.

In any case, there is nothing to worry about if it is not happening randomly or out of the blue.

Sometimes when attraction is high, building a connection with humor can take time.

It is not always instant.

Even some very deep relationships that have a long-term commitment require time to develop your shared sense of humor.

The more you do together and the more you share life’s ups and downs, the more you’ll laugh—and maybe cry—together.

If they are lucky, they will laugh so much together that they will cry.

That is the best.

7) Be mature

No matter what you do to make a man beg to be with you, it is very, very important to avoid “games.”

I mean anything other than actual games, like board games or video games together.

Avoid mind games, jealousy games, games of not answering calls and text messages, etc.

Ignore any websites or gurus telling you to act like the drama queen.

Any guy worth his salt will disappear when he feels you are playing on his emotions or “trying” to make him feel or react a certain way.

It just doesn’t work.

And even if it temporarily causes a result you want, in the long run it will be a radical and terrible break.

The goal of this article is for you to really understand and be able to use the positive steps that will deepen your connection with your guy. It’s not about games.

The difference is that there is nothing wrong with understanding and changing the approach in your relationship, but there is something wrong with trying clever “tactics” to fool him.

That’s not love. And if you don’t know another way to relate, I suggest you go back to point 1.

It’s one thing to be a little standoffish or stop being so emotionally vulnerable to him all the time.

But quite different is intentionally pretending to be upset to make her feel guilty. Or flirt with another guy to make him jealous. You know what I’m talking about.

Keep things mature and love will grow, if you play nothing good can come of that.

8) Let me help you

This is related to the hero instinct and everything that comes with it. Although more on the slow, steady and emotional side.

It’s great if you let him drive your car or take care of you when you’re sick. That hero instinct will kick in, guaranteed.

But you must also develop that attitude, regardless of how strong and capable you are, that appreciates and responds with love to their interest in your life and your problems.

It’s not that your guy needs to fix life, but he wants to feel essential and he needs it so that part of him clicks and wants to be with you forever.

As attractive and stimulating as a guy finds you, that deeper part for him to choose to stay with you must be activated through a connection based on trust and protection.

No need to “play” damsel in distress here. Just be open to her feedback and help in your life.

Even if he doesn’t solve anything, his presence and support will mean a lot to you and to him.

I mentioned relationship psychologist James Bauer earlier, he’s the one who came up with the term hero instinct, and it’s catching on because, frankly, it’s true.

As he explains in his free video, the hero instinct is about a man’s need to be more than just a friend, just a lover, or just a guy you turn to once in a while.

He wants to be the one you lean on and turn to when a negative situation arises.

This triggers something deep within him and lets his love for you flow out.

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