Have you ever had any disappointments with friends? The problem may be in you – Blog

When we have very dear friends, we often give ourselves too much in the relationship, we don’t receive in return what we expected and with that, we are disappointed. We believe that people are self-interested or that we deserve more consideration. How to deal with a disappointment with friends?

What we don’t stop to think is that we put a lot of expectation on the outside, we depend too much on the other and it is clear that all this hope will not bring the result we imagined, because we put the responsibility of making us happy on the other.

Of course, it’s nice to get all the effort we put in in return, but when we depend on him to be happy or simply to exist, it means we put little faith in ourselves.

To stop being disappointed with friends, you have to accept yourself, support yourself and simply expect less from the other. Embrace what he can offer and receive that love with an open heart, but don’t depend on him for anything. Count on you and the disappointments will decrease.

Tarologist Lígia Chizolini wrote a very interesting text on this subject. I hope it inspires you to love yourself:

“Each person needs to become himself, so as not to be left behind others depending on the world.

Those who have possession of themselves do not claim the consideration, attention, support, love of the other, with the veiled intention of sustaining themselves. Although when they show up, they are welcome and very pleasant.

It means not delegating your power to anyone. Those who have possession of themselves do not compare themselves to anyone else, worship for themselves the assumption “I am in the world, I am not of the world”, and are far from belonging to the mass grave.

The forces of shadows, animal, instinct, guardian, only obey those who have possession of themselves. If you don’t take possession of yourself, inevitably others will.”

Ligia Chizolini

How to avoid disappointment with friends?

Remember, you are the only person in the world who has true power over your life. Do not hand this treasure over to anyone else, as this is what causes so many disappointments with friends, partners, and family. Friends exist to give us support, joy, love and affection. Enjoy your company, but know where their actions end and yours begin. This will help you avoid heartache and disappointment.

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