Even if they fail you, doing good is the right thing to do

They say that doing good is forgetting yourself to give everything for others; but it’s not true. Absolutely. Acting correctly, with integrity and promoting the well-being of those around us, does not mean “giving up.”

Those who always seek the best for the whole, act according to their inner voice, and according to their own values. If you didn’t, it would be going against your own essence, and then you would be causing serious damage to your self-concept, to your identity.

They say that there are disappointments that make us open our eyes and close our hearts. It is a pain that will force us to be more prudent, but that should never lead us to lose our ability to do good.

In some way, this idea reminds us a little of the one that Saint-Exupéry left us in The Little Prince: ““It would be crazy to hate all the roses because one pricked you.”

So that, Not because we have suffered a disappointment are we going to hate the rest of the world, And even more, we are not going to change our philosophy of life because we have experienced several, or even too many, disappointments. You can dress with prudence, with the armor of caution, but never give in to resentment or hatred. Not worth it.

Even if they disappoint me, I will not tire of doing good

We all have more than one personal story marked by disappointment. There are some that hurt more than others, and some have even forced us to lose that initial innocence with which we usually arrive in this world.

They say that even the most loving heart gets tired of being hurt, but no matter how many wounds we receive, we should never lose our ability to love, to love those who truly deserve it.

In life, we invest time, emotions, dreams and hopes in achieving certain goals. Sometimes, they are just aspirations, other times it is life invested in certain people who, at some point, can disappoint us.

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When we want something very intensely and we lose it, disappointment and emptiness appear.Not only do we lose that relationship, that dream, we also let go of a part of ourselves.The greatest danger of disappointment is falling into helplessness. There is something that has not met our expectations, that has not turned out as we expected… And that hurts, so much so, that we can generate the feeling that no matter what we do, the same result will repeat itself. There are many times in that certain failures and, above all, disappointments, generate negative feelings in us such as anger, rage, resentment or frustration. Any negative emotion maintained chronically over time can change our vision of life, people , and even about the idea that there may still be good people in the world.

We must never let ourselves be carried to these extremes in which our values are completely broken. Because when we lose our values we lose everything, and If you lose your ability to do good thinking that it is not worth it, you will be ceasing to be yourself. You will stop recognizing yourself every time you look in the mirror.

Practice the habit of acceptance

Everything that happens in your life, whether good or bad, accept it, integrate it and continue moving forward in the lightest way possible.. If you harbor resentment you will walk slowly, if you harbor anger you will seek revenge, if you hide hatred you will be stranded and you will have completely lost your ability to do good. For generating happiness.

In this life we are nothing more than brief passengers on a path where those who are light on hatred and resentment will be able to enjoy the journey with greater wisdom and integrity.

We know that it is not always easy to face disappointment, but If there is something you should not allow, it is that the bad behavior of others is impregnated in you to the point of changing you. To make you believe that good people no longer exist, or even more so, that good people always end up hurt.

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How to overcome disappointment to continue trusting yourself and those around you

Take note of how you should protect yourself in your daily life to protect yourself, as far as possible of disappointments:

Try to live in the “here and now”, focus on the present without generating excessive expectations about what should happen or what will happen. Let yourself go. Accept that disappointments are part of life and that we must learn from them. Don’t allow them to change you into something you are NOT.

Understand that you cannot control what others do, whether good or bad. You know who you are and what you want, and you know that doing good is part of your roots, your vital essence.Believe in others until they prove otherwise.. Allow yourself to trust, you have experience, you have nobility in your heart and you deserve to always find the best in people. If you approach them with past grudges, you will encounter rejection.

Approach disappointments as a renewal: it is experience and a clear example of what you do not want to repeat. Never lose your ability to do good no matter how many times you are disappointed, no matter how many times you fall.