Don’t let negative experiences control your life

Our life is a continuous succession of experiences which we live, share and feel, regardless of whether they are positive or negative.

Like everything, Negative experiences are the ones that will mark us the most. Well, our natural state, in which we are happiest, is when everything is going well, “wind in our sails,” and we are barely aware of time and our own existence.

Negative experiences are necessary in our lives. They can help us get on track in our lives, learn to make better choices, know how to discern what we want from what we don’t want.

Definitely, All experiences, but especially negative ones, help us to be better people. But what happens when this is not the case? What happens when these experiences control my life?

When experiences control me

Surely you feel identified with the fact that the negative experiences you live, instead of making your life better, subsequently make it worse. What do we mean by this? That condition you.

For example, look at the following situations that we are going to describe, since you have probably already experienced many of them:

If someone publicly humiliates me for a comment I made, I will avoid saying what I think so that it does not happen again. If my partner blames me for our breakup, perhaps in my next relationship I will act with caution and submission.I always try to think like others so that people don’t give me a bad face and accept me.

These and many more situations provoke something very natural, which is the search for pleasure and the avoidance of the pain that every negative experience causes us.

But sometimes, This fear of finding ourselves defenseless in the face of an unexpected situation that harms us causes us to put on a mask that does nothing but hide what we cannot heal.

Masks that make us show ourselves to be someone we are not and that, instead of helping us face our problem, cause the wound of our pain to get bigger.

In my life I rule

Although negative experiences hurt us and affect us more intensely, we must prevent them from controlling and directing our lives.

Only we can decide how we are going to lead our lives, how we want to act, how we want to proceed… Experiences should make us move forward, improve, but never go backwards. And, of course, experiences should never cause our unhappiness.

How should we then act regarding these negative experiences?

Never feel sorry for yourself, nor put blame on yourself that you shouldn’t. What happened is now in the past, it is time to look towards the present with security and positivity.Don’t let your feelings drag you down and they plunge you into a sadness that is difficult for you to get out of. Feel them, but don’t let them approach you like a tsunami. Shout “enough!” and continue forward. Do not get carried away by your thoughts as they will go around a thousand times and make you feel confused and paralyzed by the situation. Put the brakes on your thoughts and start acting.Actively choose in your lifebe the one who chooses how to live it and avoid every negative experience that forces you to modify your path.

It is true that negative experiences cause insecurity, doubts, discomfort, sadness… But, all of this can be overcome and only you have the power to do it.

If you want to get out of this situation you must start fighting against those feelings that try to tackle you and drag you along as if it were a current. Avoid confusing thoughts that will only paralyze you and seriously focus on what you want.

Nobody tells you that you shouldn’t feel that insecurity, assimilate it, live it, feel it. But, what it can’t do is control you.

Look at negative experiences as situations to learn from. From everything negative you can get something positive, something that only you can find, something that only you will decide to experience.