“At some point I’m not going to wake up exhausted, thinking ‘today I can’t do it?’” vents Thaila Ayala about reconciling routine and motherhood

Reconciling motherhood with a professional career is a challenge that many women face in their daily lives, including famous ones. This does not mean, however, that this is an easy process. Actress Thaila Ayala, who has an extensive and glorious curriculum in teledramaturgy, commonly uses social networks to address the topic and tell how motherhood, despite being difficult, needs to be managed together with work so that she not only feels happy, but also complete.

With that in mind, today awesome.club brought the actress’ perspective on this issue that is, or has been, present in the lives of many mothers. And it shows that they are not alone! Check it out below!

Despite having started her career as a model, Thaila Ayala also has a long acting career. Who doesn’t remember the iconic protagonist Marcela, from Malhação? Full of personality, the character already seemed to show the strength and wisdom that, in fact, were also characteristics of the actress who gave her life in front of the screen.

It was in 2019 that she married Renato Goés, the father of her son, who was born in December 2021 — and, despite forming a beautiful family and notoriously being full of love, motherhood was not always a plan for the actress, who became I was scared just by the possibility: “I who never thought about being a mother, I who was terrified just imagining losing my ‘freedom’. Having someone depending on me, I left home at 15 and gained my independence so early… I shivered just thinking about it”.

Thaila also doesn’t make a point of hiding that motherhood, since the gestational period, has not been easy at all: “(…) So many changes, and in all sectors and places of life, physical, psychological, emotional”. And she still talks openly about how all these transformations directly impacted her personal and professional life.

“I had a pregnancy that wasn’t easy at all, although many said it was a woman’s best moment. I had all the symptoms, pains, difficulties and guilt, a lot of guilt. I couldn’t have anything to do with my belly, I didn’t feel anything, nothing at all. On the contrary, I felt so much pain, I felt so bad that I didn’t have good feelings, and fear imprisoned me, fear of not being good enough, fear of everything!” And contrary to popular belief, the changes that happen during pregnancy are not always so subtle and tenuous — this cycle, in fact, can be quite complicated.

When Francisco was about 6 months old, the first-time mom vented on social media about how tiring the routine was at this stage when the baby is so dependent: “Hey, mothers from my Brazil, at some point exhaustion raisin? At some point I’m not going to wake up destroyed, very exhausted, thinking ‘I can’t do it, today I can’t do it?’ I just wanted the energy to be able to do 10% of the things I need to do, you know?”

However, a strong support network of other celebrities was created, in the comments of the post in question, to show Ayala that she was not alone: ​​“Breathe and look at the sky, because it takes a few more years, but time will always be short , on the other hand, love only grows” commented Débora Nascimento, while Giovanna Ewbank reiterated: “No, baby… It will always be like this, but we get used to it, everything will fall into place, and when you realize everything will be fine. flowing”.

Over time, however, the need to get back to routine came and with that, it became essential to find a meeting point between motherhood and work. The actress says that, because she worked a lot at home, the dynamic became “easier”: “Both work and motherhood are part of me, I need both things to be happy and fulfilled. So it’s natural for me to try to find a balance between those and the other things that make me who I am.”

However, she reiterates that this does not lessen the “guilt” and social pressure that she often feels in the face of the situation: “They constantly want to tell us how we should be mothers. Delegating this function only to the mother is the recipe for her to feel guilty: either because she thinks she is not doing it, or because she feels frustrated because she wanted to reconcile motherhood and work.”

Knowing that this is the reality of many women, who are not always able to express the importance of having a more attentive look at the subject, Thaila founded, together with her friend Julia Faria, “MIL E UMA TRETAS”, a project to exchange experiences with her followers and show them how much “sharing and being welcomed” can make the motherhood process easier.

“Although today I know that pregnancy is the most unique and private experience a person can have, having suffered from a disease that is so little embraced during pregnancy only made what is already extremely lonely even more lonely. Sharing and being welcomed was fundamental to my process. Listen and be heard, without judgments and yes, empathy. And for this and all the fundamental exchanges that ‘MIL E UMA TRETAS’ was born. With the idea of ​​listening, sharing and welcoming.” A very cool initiative, right?

Despite all the difficulties, the actress makes it clear that the love she feels for Francisco is so strong that it becomes a reunion of herself, with herself, or in her own words: “What I didn’t know is that I was afraid it was of this love that I didn’t know, love that overflows, transforms and moves. I didn’t know how this whole world gets so tiny close to your little eyes that you see my soul naked and raw. (…) The greatest transformation, the greatest love in the world in you, my divine gift.”

And he adds: “My Father, we went to the room and I could only look you in the eyes, see you and there and there I found myself, YOU GAVE ME THE THAILA that I always looked for, you are simply everything I ever needed, I don’t have words to describe what happens inside my chest when I look at you, it hurts, it makes me short of breath, it gives me butterflies in my stomach, my soul is filled! I love you Chico!” And, even if there are countless problems during motherhood, which increasingly need to be discussed, there is also no doubt that the connection between a mother and her child has no limits, and breaks unimaginable barriers — isn’t it?

Now, we want to hear from you! How do you or did you deal with all the routine demands during motherhood? Tell us in the comments!