7 signs to detect a toxic marriage

A marriage becomes toxic when at least one of the members of the couple suffers more than they are happy. Discomfort sets in as a routine and a healthy emotional connection is impossible. The line between a toxic marriage and a problematic one is very thin. Therefore, we must be attentive to the signs that indicate toxicity.

The existence of emotional dependence, possessive behaviors, jealousy, manipulation or frequent arguments are indicators that the relationship is not going well. Furthermore, these behaviors usually indicate a situation of inequality between the members of the couple. One gains ground and exercises control, while the other remains in the shadows and can be manipulated.

A healthy relationship provides pleasure, happiness and well-being. Instead, in a toxic marriage, one or both parties you feel unhappy, sad, or anxious most of the time you spend with the other person. This suffering causes a great emotional exhaustion both in the couple and in the family nucleus. Let’s see what its most characteristic signs are.

Emotional dependence creates toxic bonds

Emotional dependence is a psychological trap that chains the possibility of being happy to the fact of being with another person. Dependent people are capable of recognizing the abuse and contempt they suffer daily, but they do not have the ability to stop being attached to their partners. They ask for forgiveness even for things they have not done, they are obedient and take care of all kinds of details so that the other feels comfortable, even if this means going to their detriment. Their intention is to obtain the approval and affection of others.

Possibly, the basis of emotional dependence is found in low self-esteem that leads the dependent to not feel up to par with his or her partner. These people are critical of themselves to the extreme and therefore feel guilty, even for the contempt they may suffer from their partners. What they don’t know is that the other’s contempt increases in almost the same proportion as their attitude of submission.
The dependent person returns again and again to the toxic bond, in the same way that a drug addict uses again. With each turn, the situation worsens, growing contempt in the couple and decreasing the dignity and self-esteem of the dependent.

Signs to detect a toxic marriage

Love and dependence are at odds, if they coexist they are destroyed. If this happens, even if the relationship remains, love will darken until it becomes a necessity to be well, to be happy. This will lead to crossing the limits of respect and obsession with control, which together with the need for approval will dominate the relationship.

Disputes in love relationships always arise. There is nothing wrong with having different opinions and expressing them to your partner. The problem comes when they become routine and the limits cease to exist. Below, we leave you 7 signs to identify a toxic marriage.

There is no mutual respect.One member of the couple has most of the power over both of them.There is no effort to make the other happy.Being obsessed is confused with being in love.The spouse is blamed for everything or is always the one to blame.Above all, the couple’s behavior is justified.Discussions are a constant.

All of these signals create an atmosphere of discomfort that prevents the maintenance of a healthy bond. They do no good to anyone but they do a lot of harm, so much so that they can become pathological. Hence it is so It is important to learn to be independent on an emotional level. In this way we will know how to be happy without the need for others and creators of well-being in a relationship.

Dependency binds and manipulates, emotional independence gives wings to fly. Let’s try to take care of ourselves and we want to build quality links.

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