20 Internet users say what are the most important things when organizing a wedding

A wedding is a very important day and this can make many people very nervous in the months leading up to it and not knowing where to start planning. Many netizens also went through this and decided to share all the wisdom they accumulated after organizing their own weddings with desperate bride and groom.

To help those who are going through this, the incredible.club has separated some of the best wedding planning advice given by netizens for you. Check out!

Don’t let others pressure you. Have a small wedding and choose what you like. Don’t care what others gossip. And your day. © AlHazard33/ Reddit

The only things that really matter are food and drink. No one cares about the color of the flowers or how much was spent on the dress. So she feels pretty and has fun. Also, don’t buy a dress thinking it will fit, get one that already fits you. © pxluna/ Reddit

Weddings are stereotypes of women, just like makeup, fashion and jewelry, and that means there will be a lot of people trying to shame anyone who likes or spends money on them. Honestly, the worst part of my entire experience planning my wedding was talking about it and seeing everyone get competitive about how little they spent on theirs. It’s one thing not to want a big party, but a lot of people were trying to make me feel bad about inviting all my aunts and uncles and having real decorations that weren’t ripped out of my neighbor’s yard in the middle of the night. At the end of the day, you just have to ignore it and do whatever you want. It’s your marriage, not theirs. © PurpleWeasel/ Reddit

A good test to decide the limit of the guest list is: for a wedding, the price is, on average, R$ 300 per person. As you look at the list, ask yourself, “Would I buy this person or spouse dinner for that amount any other night?” If the answer is no, they don’t need to be on the guest list. © tsh87/ Reddit

It’s absolutely normal to enjoy a big, fancy party with 200+ guests. It’s hard work, but how many times do you get the chance to throw another bash? That said, things will go wrong. It happens even in small weddings, so try not to let it get to you. In a few years you’ll realize it wasn’t as bad as it seemed at the time (linen napkins would have been nice, but the plain white ones didn’t ruin the day after all) and it’ll turn into a great story (remember when we had to pause our votes because of the tornado?). © neobeguine/ Reddit

If you don’t want useless advice, keep your mouth shut about planning. If you have people who need to be kept busy, there are a plethora of decorating activities that can be passed on to make their day feel like fun, while keeping them from meddling in things that are none of their business. © clippedant/ Reddit

Someone told me to stop sometimes on my wedding day, take a deep breath, look around and take it all in, creating my own memories in my head, trying to remember what it felt like to be surrounded by loved ones. Even though I am divorced, having married in 1999, I still have very vivid memories of following this advice. © triticoides/ Reddit

Most likely, the day will not be perfect and without any problems. Something will go wrong. Maybe something small, maybe something big, maybe several things. The important thing is that you will be together and married in the end and even a “disaster” can be a celebration of something beautiful if you are happy together and determined to stay that way. © LJGHunter/ Reddit

If you can afford the full support of a ceremonialist, do so. Best decision I made at the start of the organization. She and her team knew the ins and outs of dealing with salons and vendors and how to negotiate with them. What’s more, they took care of most of the day, planning and preparing, saving my husband and I a lot of work and stress, as well as saving us money. At the very least, hire a good officiant so you can relax and enjoy the day. It goes by so fast. © Giannandco/ Reddit

Think about what you’re going to do with the decorations after the big day. I got married 8 months ago and I still have five boxes of glass bottles and silk flowers in the back of my closet. I know I should do something with them, but… © tsh87/ Reddit

I learned this before my own marriage from watching others: don’t let anyone help you without you paying for it, unless you’re okay with someone giving their opinions, which can be pretty strong. I decided to have an inexpensive ceremony because the most important thing for me was being able to relax and enjoy the celebration. © Hiciao/ Reddit

You cannot please everyone. Marriage also brings out the best and worst in others and that person you didn’t expect will suddenly have a problem with something. At the end of the day, do what you want and remember: it’s just one day, and as long as you and your partner are married by the end of it, you’ve accomplished your goal. © CouchKakapo/ Reddit

Have a good time. Remember that this was supposed to be a happy event and don’t let stress make you forget about it. I always reminded myself when I was overwhelmed that it was supposed to be fun and that helped keep me in the moment. Also, during the big day, I’d be doing mental checks with myself to make sure I enjoyed it and didn’t miss out. © kaygurts/ Reddit

Plan the event backwards. Your guests will spend more time at the party than at the ceremony, so invest more money in the former. Good food and drink, music and cake, that’s what they’ll remember most and so will you. And something will always go wrong. Ever! Accept it, it’s not the end of the world. © Gnome926/ Reddit

Set a budget and stick to it! Even if someone decides to give something away, like your future mother-in-law paying for the photographer, for example, don’t use that money for anything else. Consider it already spent. © Donut-Island/ Reddit

Make sure the salon, caterers, DJs have some other contact for emergencies! We just passed our numbers and didn’t keep our phones during the ceremony or when taking pictures. When we were already going to the reception we discovered that the place had no power. It never crossed our minds that we might need another emergency contact. © PinkBubblyLife/ Reddit

Don’t choose your bridesmaids too soon, you never know if you’re going to have a fight. I was about to call a girl and my mother warned me to wait. I’m glad I waited, because I ended up having a huge argument before my wedding. Also, don’t choose your dress or schedule your hair and makeup too far in advance of the date. Really, take the time to think about what you want, test it out first, and don’t try to look like someone you’re not. © pbd1996/ Reddit

Some people will be rude and invite themselves or assume they’re already invited when they’re not. Don’t get carried away by this and make sure you have an answer like “we haven’t made the list yet” or “it’s just for the family” or even just be sincere and say “no, you’re not invited”. © lexi7171/ Reddit

I had to put up a huge banner on my wedding website that said, “If you didn’t get an invitation in the mail, then you’re not invited to the wedding and you shouldn’t attend,” because apparently that wasn’t implied. “Use an online confirmation system!” they said. “It’s so much cheaper and easier to track!” they said. I still recommend an online system, but I definitely learned the hard way why people password protect them. © PurpleWeasel/ Reddit

You don’t have to follow traditions if you don’t want to. There will be negative reactions or people giving their irrelevant opinions, but most are just reacting because it was something other than the expectation rather than what you actually decided. We discovered that after our wedding, many people who were skeptical about some of our choices ended up finding them great, because what really matters is a happy couple celebrating with their loved ones. © destria/ Reddit

And you, do you have any wedding organization tips that helped you? Share with us in the comments!