14+ People Explained Why They Chose a Childless Life

More and more people around the world have consciously renounced the idea of ​​having children. The reasons vary: it can be, for example, a negative experience in one’s own family or among friends, the fact of not wanting to assume the enormous responsibilities resulting from fatherhood and motherhood, or even a simple lack of interest in the subject.

we, from awesome.club, we believe that each one must decide, based on their own reality and their own reasons, whether they want to become a father (or mother) or not. To better understand those who choose not to have children, we analyzed a topic of discussion and conducted a survey among our team. Your stories are at the end of the article🇧🇷

An acquaintance did not sleep well for a few months after giving birth. She has not managed to regulate her sleep until now, wakes up with the slightest noise and is not able to sleep through the night. Another acquaintance developed a skin rash that has not healed in years. And they still say this is the best experience in the world? ©SleepyMidnightReader / Reddit I have kids and my sister doesn’t. A few years ago, someone told her that it was time for her to have a child. To this day, I admire her response. She said: “Don’t be mad at me just because I can do what I want when I want.” ©okbringoutdessert / Reddit

I’m 58 years old. I love children and I enjoy spending time with them, but I never wanted to have children of my own. I am not able to take responsibility for someone else 24 hours a day, seven days a week. And plan the kids’ menu all the time? No way. I never regretted my decision. ©YooperSkeptic / Reddit When I visit families with children, I can only endure the first few hours. Afterwards, I get tired of your energy and am happy to be able to return to my calm and peaceful home. But when you don’t have a chance to leave, it’s a nightmare. ©Mithent / Reddit

It’s a little life that is completely up to you until you grow up. And even as the child grows up, the responsibility doesn’t end, it just becomes a little different. I couldn’t handle it. ©bigsmam / RedditI like to spend my time and money how I want to. Staying in bed late and ordering takeout? Yes, I can do that. Spending time with my friends smoothly? I also can. I’d rather spend my money on new clothes and video games than diapers. And yes, I just became an uncle and I fully understand that people might want a child. It just isn’t for me. ©Brainwrongs_ / Reddit

People with kids always look tired and frustrated. Whether in a store, in a restaurant or in a movie theater. On family vacations, which should be a joy, they seem tense and struggling with their children. I always feel sorry for them. Why should I do the same to myself? ©Cyber2354 / RedditNever wanted children, and when I became a father, that hasn’t changed. Don’t get me wrong: my son is my world, I will do anything for him. I don’t care about the money; my son has everything he needs. I just want my time back. I can’t even remember the last time I watched a movie from start to finish or just sat there relaxing and listening to music. ©westbee / Reddit

I love my life very much. I love to travel and have dinner alone with my husband. I hate clutter and noise. I don’t want to spend my days listening to crying, tantrums, grumbling, running to school in the rain or buying food. There are enough people on the Planet. ©CurvePuzzleheaded361 / Reddit There’s a difference between wanting a child and wanting to be a parent. In the first case, you consider the child as an “accessory”; in the second, he assumes responsibility. ©Obvious-Cap1583 / Reddit

I don’t want to be a mother. I’d rather be sure I won’t ruin my own children’s lives. I’m just not mature and responsible enough for that. ©Ghostofmeow / Reddit I like when kids run around the house or laugh for some silly reason. I like all of it, but only for a few hours. I’m not ready to sacrifice my peace and energy for this. But I’m happy to offer help to all my friends when they have kids. I’d rather be a nice, fun aunt than a tired, regretful mother.🇧🇷 ©Arushi20 / Reddit

oksana: “In three weeks, I will be 41 years old. Recently, I realized that the meaning of life is to minimize worries and problems. I’ve been through a lot and now I want a quiet life. Children absolutely do not fit my vision of a carefree life🇧🇷Elya: “I became ‘childfree’ after my son was born. As he grew up, I realized from experience, not from books, how our traumas in our relationships with our parents are reflected in our children. Also, I’m one of those people who needs time alone. I don’t want to worry that at any moment someone might invade my personal space.”Alyona: “I don’t want to waste my resources and energy on a child at the expense of my self-fulfillment. I believe that before having children, you need to think 100 times. No matter how you educate your child, there is no guarantee that he will be the way you want him to be. And nothing guarantees that you will be able to love him. And lastly, I just don’t feel anything for children.”Anya: “Birth is a traumatic and dangerous process and education is a responsibility that not everyone can handle. My partner has the same point of view. I think it’s important that there are no disagreements on this issue in a couple. I don’t deny that over time opinions can change, so I have a positive attitude towards freezing and egg donation. I think it’s a good way to give yourself a choice in the future or help another woman become a mother.”rhyme: “I have an anxiety disorder and I can’t sleep well, even when my cat takes a long time to come home. If I have a kid, I’m going to go crazy and drive him crazy. I’ll be overprotective, I’ll make a fuss over every trifle, and I’ll always be afraid that something bad will happen to him. I think not all people should have children.”Nikolay: “I’ve always been a little afraid of children, so I’m going to be a terrible father. With kids, I won’t be able to live the way I want. Recently, I decided to do an experiment: I started dating a woman who had a 4-year-old son. I wanted to know what it’s like in general. Maybe I was wrong… In the end, things didn’t work out, and the reason was the child.”

What do you think of people who choose not to have children? You have kids? How do you view fatherhood or motherhood?