10 important questions when another person appears in a relationship

In a perfect world, you find someone you love, you commit to them for the rest of your life. You live happily ever after. End.

But we do not live in a perfect world.

People change, feelings change. You may even discover that you don’t feel the same way about the person next to you, in the future.

It is normal to meet other people, who attract you, after you have married.

Usually what you feel for your partner is strong enough to bring you back to earth and keep you on track.

But what if you meet someone you have strong feelings for and you can’t get rid of?

You are not the first person this has happened to and this does not make you a bad person.

We all have feelings that we cannot control. You can’t help but feel something for someone.

It’s so easy to jump into a new relationship and fall head over heels in love.

Everything is new and you don’t have to worry about all those marital problems anymore.

You can easily get carried away for the moment, as you have found everything your marriage was missing. It feels liberating.

But are these feelings truly love?

This is a question that only you can answer, along with others, with which we will help you figure out what you really feel.

10 questions to ask yourself if you are falling in love with someone else

1) Is the cheating physical, emotional or both?

If you are in love with this person, there is no doubt that you have cheated on your partner. It is not possible to be in love with another person, without anything happening.

Emotional cheating is not the same as physical cheating. Many even think that the emotional is worse.

It’s not just about sex. It is about the connection that the two of you have together. You have left the place of your marriage, to find this connection.

Ponder the following:

Do you stay up at night talking about life with him?

Does he understand you on a deeper level than anyone else?

This emotional connection that you have is dangerous. It is very likely that there are strong feelings there.

If it is purely physical, it is very likely that you are simply satisfying a need, not a want. This is not Love.

2) Why are you interested in this relationship?

Consider why you embarked on this relationship in the first place.

If you answered yes to these questions, then you are more likely to be in love with the idea of ​​someone new than this particular person.

If you chose the relationship because you want to get to know this person better and find out who they are, then love is more likely.

3) Do you love their flaws?

If you don’t even know what their flaws are, then it’s safe to say that this new relationship was born out of lust and nothing more.

On the other hand, it may happen that you know all his flaws, even biting his nails in the bedroom.

If you love him for it, then there are definite feelings there.

4) How long have you known him?

It is very easy to get carried away in a short time. And when it comes to love affairs, time really is of the essence.

If you haven’t known him for that long, then you can take love out of the equation.

To love means to know a person on a deeper level than anyone else, and this takes time.

Even if you’ve been together for a long time, ask yourself if the relationship feels impulsive or stable.

If it is the former, it is more likely that you are satisfying a sexual desire, rather than finding love. Here you can read our article about the reasons for cheating despite loving your partner.

5) Do you see a future?

You may have found a new lover, who offers you everything your marriage was missing. But do you see it as a long-term bond?

It may be good for this current moment, but not for the rest of your life.

When there are problems in our relationship and we seek external comfort, it’s easy to see the best in that new person.

You forget that relationships require much more than that.

They also require a lot more commitment. Do you think this new love is up to it?

6) Where does he stand in life?

Another thing to consider is where your new love is located in life. If you choose to be with him, knowing this is very important.

Do you have children of your own? Is he also married? Has he ever been married? Because? or why not?

You can fall in love with the idea of ​​a person, without really loving them.

Find out if the two really have something in common, besides the adventure they share.

This will go a long way toward sorting out your feelings and determining whether or not a relationship will last beyond the affair.

7) Do you tremble when he is near?

Believe it or not, shaking is one of those physical signs that you can’t help but love takes over.

Is this new man in your life really shaking you up?

Your heart races when he’s around and you can’t control the trembling in your knees. Other signs can be:

Sweaty palms Fast breathing Euphoria

When love arises in you, your brain reacts to it in a very special way.

Chemicals are released into your body that can cause these signs.

There’s nothing you can do about it. Just recognize the signs and interpret what they are telling you.

8) Are you prepared to share your life with him?

Are you really willing to have a life with him?

Will you share your children with him?

To your friends?

To your family?

Your money?

Your house?

All these questions are what you must answer, to know how you really feel about that new person in your life. An adventure is one thing. But having him with you for the rest of your life is another. Take the time to think carefully.

9) Can’t stop thinking about him?

When you are at home with your partner, does your mind travel to your new love?

Does the same thing happen when you go out with your friends? At work? When are you at home with the kids?

This is a sure sign that you are falling in love or perhaps already in love.

Do you go shopping and come back with something for him too?

This suggests that you will not be able to easily remove this person from your life. The feelings are there and they are very strong.

10) Do you share everything about each other?

Love is about forming a deep connection between two people.

Do you stay up late every night, sharing insights about your life? So this is a good indication that you have a strong emotional connection.

Do you find yourself sharing things about your life that no one else knows, including your partner?

So there is a level of trust in this new relationship that does not exist in your partner. This can mean love and even a deep spiritual connection.

Why do married people have affairs?

Before you got married, you never imagined yourself to be the type of person who cheats.

You thought that happened in other marriages, but definitely not in yours.

Until the situation presented itself and you let yourself go. There are so many different factors that can lead to someone cheating during marriage.

Here are some of the main reasons someone else appears in a relationship:

Lack of sexual satisfaction Lack of emotional satisfaction Falling out of love Lack of enthusiasm

What should you do?

These are the main options you have:

1) End the affair and work on your marriage

You have to eliminate this new person from your life forever, so that your marriage can have a chance.

It’s better to be upfront and honest about what has happened, and then jump right in to repairing your marriage.

2) Stay in your marriage, while continuing to see your new love

This is often dangerous territory, as the chances of getting caught are high. At loveconnection we believe in sincere and constructive relationships. A side romance is not a healthy way to bond or treat the people you love.

You know your marriage is on the line, every time you cheat on him with your new guy.

For a while, it may seem exciting to hide and meet your new love.

But after a period, you will feel that it is physically and emotionally exhausting. Deep down you know this is really not worth it.

3) Leave your marriage for your new love

Never say Never. Although it is less likely, it could be that your new romance is the love of your life and no one should pass up the opportunity to love deeply.

If you decide on this option, talk to your new love and make sure you have the means to establish a happy life with him.

But you must be very clear that there is no going back once you follow this path.

This will impact everyone around you. Think carefully about how this will affect your husband and children, if you have them.

making the decision

The decision is yours and only yours.

Use our guide to help you work through your feelings and make the best decision possible, based on your own experience.

We are all different. What works for one may not work for another.

Take your time to deepen this decision and do not rush into it. Think that it will alter the course of the rest of your life and the lives of those around you.

Once you’ve made the decision that works for you, commit to it and do everything in your power to make it work.

It’s a second chance, but, either way, you have to be vigilant.