How to deal with disappointment with people? – Blog

We went through several moments of disappointment with people. We help a friend and expect him to reciprocate, but in the end, we don’t get more than a thank you. We surrender to a new love and are abandoned, and so on. We may think that disappointment is inevitable, but that’s not quite how it works.

Disappointment is related to frustration, which in turn is all about expectation. We expect to receive something for what we do, think or wish for, but in the end things turn out differently. The other day a friend made a donation to a man who lives on the street and he was rude to her. She was shocked by his behavior, after all, why wasn’t he more grateful? She wasn’t obligated to give him anything. But then, why did she give it? She was after recognition, more than doing good to others. Of course you would be disappointed.

Disappointment with people becomes present when we expect something from them that they are not or cannot give us. We give them power over our lives, which gives them responsibility for our happiness. This overvaluing of the other generates a lot of frustration, because deep down we know that we are the only people responsible for our own happiness.

Find out how to deal with disappointment with people

The less we expect from the other, the more we are surprised. Every attitude can be seen as positive if we lower our expectations. See how you can do this:

• Live the present. When we are present in the here and now, we don’t waste time fantasizing about what it will be or should be, but we enjoy what we have.
• Be realistic. Don’t expect your partner to act like a prince charming when you know it doesn’t exist. Respect the faults of others and yours as well.
• Have compassion. Understand that we are all entitled to have bad days, bad moods and problems.
• Take it easy. You are not perfect and you don’t need to be. Lower the expectations you have and this will happen with others too.
• Meditate. Meditation is a great way to bring your mind to reality and free yourself from expectations. Start with 5 minutes a day and feel the difference.

You don’t have to deal with disappointment with people as long as you are well and free from illusions. Try to be self-sufficient and realize that the less you need the other, the happier you will be.

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