Why don’t people know what they want?

It is always clear the fact that people do not know what they want from life, from family, from work, from their loves and from their friends. Many seem to be carried away by life, like a torrent of water drifting the fallen leaves from the trees. They take life as if it were something about which they do not have the power to decide, to deliberate, to choose. It’s as if everything happens in such a way that the person cannot be held responsible for the consequences of things, it’s as if everything is alien to him while he just lives.

This type of person often complains about everything and everyone, questions others, but never questions himself about what he really wants, what his biggest goal in this life would be. It’s up to all of us to question ourselves about what we want (in general) and what is valid for life, for all people, in any time and place.

Looking inside, returning to yourself is not an easy task, as it requires effort, time, patience, wisdom and can also bring suffering to the light of conscience. But all of this is necessary in our development as self-aware beings, being part of the path to discovering what we really want.

We must keep in mind that we are dealing here with an issue that fits more in the metaphysical, philosophical scope, than in the material scope, that is, we are not questioning here what are the objects we want to acquire, but what we want from ourselves, what we want from the world, from other people’s lives. Our choice must be made in such a way that if everyone in the world chose the same as us, the choice would be valid, true, good for everyone in the world.

We must, yes, make the journey to the arid desert that we have in us, discover our limits, our real values, our qualities and defects, to finally choose what we want. The world would be much better if everyone chose to want to improve themselves and help others, for example.

We are not drifting leaves being carried away by the flood, we are thinking beings capable of choosing, thinking, reflecting on what we want.

Looking inside, listening to your thoughts and feelings and intuitions is the first step towards happiness, for life to be light and not a burden to be carried.

We are always free to choose what to want, what to do, because we can deliberate, weigh our choices.

For this reason, everything that happens in our life is entirely our responsibility! At some point, even without realizing it clearly, we will choose to want it or not, to do it or not. We will always be responsible for the course of our lives and others never are, just as we are not responsible for other people’s choices.

I know that speaking such thoughts so directly can come across as aggressive, awkward, and even disingenuous. However, what matters is not the veracity, aggressiveness or strangeness of these words, but the journey into our interior that leads us to choose what we want.

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