She is cold as ice, but in the right hands she melts.

She’s the kind of woman who will try to stop you from entering her life like ten times. You’ll always be saying phrases like “men are all the same”, “I’ve heard that story before”, “are you like that with everyone?”, “you say things with your mouth out, you don’t feel them”, “I don’t want to a relationship”.

She doesn’t mean it badly. She is like this because she has been hurt a lot by one or more men in the past. No one after that has tried hard enough or is even remotely interesting. Most of the men who will show up now will only arrive with the intention of taking her to bed and walking out of her life immediately afterward. So now she has created this kind of protection so she doesn’t fall into the same mistake again and her biggest fear is to fall in love with someone again and later start a new relationship.

She’ll tell the people around her that she’s fine alone and that she doesn’t need a man for anything, that she just wants to be in her corner without anyone bothering her because she’s had enough problems. She doesn’t think there’s anyone who can identify with her, anyone who’s worth it. You will start to see everything in a more negative way that you will even forget how good it is to see things with your heart again. You will try to be the most independent person in the world, you will have 3 dogs and 3 cats and you will try to replace the love of a man with the love of his animals. He will call them life and say that they are the things he loves most.

So soon, she doesn’t take any boy to her house again, even if he just wants to help her with the supermarket shopping. She simply gave up looking for someone, even though her friends and co-workers encouraged her every day to go meet this one or that one, trying to set up four-way dates with her boyfriend’s friends. She can even go to one or the other, but she will hardly be interested in that person because it’s not in 30 minutes, or while having a coffee, that she will let someone into her life and most likely won’t even want a second date.

But that will all change one day.

A man will appear so confident, sure of himself, insistent and committed that he won’t give up at her first, second or third refusal. It’s going to be someone that she even thinks on the first date “I’ll never have anything with this person, not even my style!”

Maybe that’s why he’s going to captivate her and melt all that ice barrier she’s built up all this time.

It will show her that you are not just passing through her life, but to stay!

She wanted to run away, but when she realized that he already had both hands on her and finally she felt that after all, liking someone is good.

Most of the time you will have to text good morning and good night, you will have to start the conversation, otherwise she won’t tell you anything.

You’ll also have to learn to deal with that initial bad temper almost every day. Maybe it’s kind of a test to see if you really want her or if you’re just another prankster trying to have something with her that isn’t serious.

In the end she will give in and fall in love again.

And from that moment on, these will be her words: “how good it is to like you! How good it is to sleep with you, how good it is to smile with someone again, talk, walk, have lunch and dinner, make love and even get bored just for the simple pleasure of making peace later! Glad you dedicated yourself to conquering me despite my sometimes annoying nature that you say you hate but deep down you love it. You make me feel really happy. I want this to work forever!”

Text by Guilherme Filipe