69 is a very famous sexual position that incites anyone’s imagination. In it, the couple performs oral sex simultaneously. It can be very interesting because it involves many senses.
Many believe that this position only makes sex difficult, or that it is impossible to do two things at once. But, believe me, it is possible and can be very pleasant if done with comfort and safety.
Basic tips for a good 69
Check out some tips to make a good 69, without taboos and shame. You will find that breaking out of traditional positions once in a while can be a lot of fun. We talked to the psychologist and sexologist, Keila Oliveira, who gave us valuable tips to make a successful 69, check it out:
- Attention to hygiene: as there will be direct contact with the partner’s genitals, it is important to pay special attention to hygiene. Keila recommends using intimate soaps before the act, as they balance the acidity of the region and eliminate any odor.
- Make yourself comfortable: The main step in doing a 69 is being very comfortable with the other person and with yourself. Insecurities here are not welcome, as the practice needs a good deal of concentration. “Feeling pleasure is like floating on water, if you’re not totally relaxed, you won’t be able to”, emphasizes Keila.
- Don’t forget about foreplay: oral sex is sex like any other position, so make sure you’re both well prepared and excited for the act. Allow yourself to receive and give caresses, always surrendering to the moment. Remember: concentration is all in one 69!
- Think about sex: a lot of sex is in our thinking. With the rush of everyday life, it is difficult to disconnect from tasks, but try to think about sex before finding your partner. Send some more spicy messages throughout the day and mentalize your desires. It helps the two of you to be less locked in when you meet. Sex will flow much better.
How about putting these tips into practice and see if it really works? Apart from the insecurity of the game, sex will happen much more peacefully and yummy.
Best postures for 69
Much of the difficulty found by couples in this practice comes from not knowing how to position themselves. There are many ways to make a 69, so why not find the one that’s right for you? If you already have one, try another. Giving a variety in sex helps to improve the relationship
1. Man underneath and woman on top
This is the traditional 69 position and also the easiest, as the woman has more room to move around during practice. But since you will be in contrast to what you usually find when performing oral sex on your partner, remember to explore other ways to pleasure him. Massaging the glans, for example, can help you get more aroused.
Be careful not to completely let go of your partner so you don’t suffocate him. You will be able to choose how you want him to guide his tongue, since he is on top and can move his hips more easily.
2. Woman below and man above
This position works more or less like the one explained above, but it becomes a little more uncomfortable, especially for the woman, as she doesn’t have much room to move her head and neck. In this case, your partner should be gentle and not completely let go of you, as this can make sex unpleasant.
To get around the space issue, you can stimulate your partner in alternative ways to the traditional one. But don’t insist if there is discomfort, remember that you will need to be comfortable to receive pleasure too.
3. Sideways
This position can be more comfortable as both are well supported. The most complicated part is access to the genitalia, which is easier in positions where one is on top of the other. Just don’t be in a hurry, use your hands to caress each other, in addition to concentration, which is fundamental in any 69 position.
4. 69 Moebius
A special suggestion from Keila: in this position, the woman lies with her head turned to one side. The man stands with his hips turned to the side and his head and torso on his stomach, under her body. It is a good option for couples who have differences in their choice of positions. It can also be inverted, so that the woman has more room to move her head.
There are even bolder and more complex positions, but Keila suggests greater security in this case, especially if you are going to invest in performances.
How to make this position even more delicious
For those who like to increase sex, investing in accessories or even other ways to use the body can be a good choice. How about improving the 69 with these tips?
1. Invest in gels and toys
To make sex even more complete and exciting, how about calling some objects to participate in this game? Massage gels are great for starting foreplay. You can massage from above until you get there, indicating your intentions to 69.
2. Have fun!
There is nothing better than having sex with complicity and respect for each other. Allow yourself to feel and give pleasure, without pressure and without taboos. More loose, sex will become more fun and light for you.
3. Use your whole body
Don’t just invest in erogenous areas such as the clitoris and glans. You have a whole body available to be explored, buttocks, groin, labia majora and minora. With delivery, you can’t go wrong.
4. A joke is never too much
Keila gave us a great tip for anyone who likes to play a little game before getting straight to the point. With him lying on one side of the bed, go kissing, caressing and licking the region of the face, going down to the neck, navel… no rush, enjoy the moment and when you get there, come back and say it’s over.
69 can be an amazing sex position if you are safe and comfortable with your partner. Although it requires a lot of concentration that is divided between giving and receiving pleasure, it can give a relationship up.
It’s very cool to discover yourself and discover the other, but always safely. Remember to protect yourself: oral sex, like other sexual practices, can transmit STDs.