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People of different religions talk about a non-Catholic wedding

Brazil is a country known worldwide for having a population of unshakable faith and great religious diversity. Even so, according to the latest demographic census on religions released by the IBGEin 2010, about 64% of Brazilians said they were Catholic at the time – forming an immense majority of followers of the religion, historically the most present in the national territory.

The fact is that the number of Catholics has been decreasing over the years, at the same time that the number of professedly evangelical, spiritist and non-religious people has increased considerably.

But, think quickly: of all the weddings you’ve ever attended in your life, how many of them weren’t based on Catholicism? Or, better: regarding the weddings shown on television and in the media as a whole, in which ones did you notice that a church and a priest celebrating were not present? There were probably few – and we want to change that.

Next, you’ll learn a little more about Buddhism, Judaism, Umbanda and even the absence of religion – a factor that doesn’t prevent anyone from getting married, see?

Natalia Caplan and Larrion de Araújo

the doula Natalia Caplan married the photographer Larrion de Araújo in November last year, in Manaus (AM), with a party and a ceremony that included some Jewish and other Christian elements. Like this? Natália, because she was born to a Jewish mother and is a direct descendant of Israel, calls herself a legitimate part of the Jewish people, but has a Christian faith – and she explains what that means:

“Jews and Christians believe in the same God (father and creator). The difference is that we Christians believe in Jesus Christ as the son of God (Yeshua Hamashia, the Messiah), while most Jews only follow the Torah – the basis of the Jewish religion, the Torah is the Old Testament, which brings together the five first books of the Bible -, and still await the coming of the Messiah (saviour). As a Jewish-Christian, I celebrate biblical festivals, but I don’t celebrate Catholic dates, such as the June festival and Christmas”, she tells the MofWoman🇧🇷

So when she and Larrion got married, different traditions, Christian and Jewish, were brought into the ceremony. Among the specific elements of the Torah present there, there was the so-called “shofar blowing”, to call the bridegroom – the song, originally played with the national trumpet of the people of Israel (the shofar), appeared in the Bible being used in military and military occasions. religious. In addition, the tallit was used, a kind of shawl, made of silk, which the groom usually wears at a Jewish wedding to represent the priesthood. The wedding also featured food such as wine, milk, wheat, honey and oil displayed on the supper table, which also had a menorah – the seven-pointed candelabrum, the oldest and most imposing Jewish symbol of all time – for decoration.

Held under the so-called chupá, name given to the Jewish tent, the celebration had songs in Hebrew and Portuguese and the famous breaking of the cup, ending the moment. For those who don’t know, it is common that in some Jewish weddings the groom, in a symbolic way, breaks a glass or goblet with his right foot, reminding everyone of the destruction of the Temple of Jerusalem. While the glass makes reference to “reconstruction”, the act serves to show the immortality of man.

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In the Christian sphere, during the ceremony, excerpts from the Old and New Testaments of the Bible, exalting the Trinity (Father, Son and Holy Spirit) were read by the apostle Wilson Ayub, who performed the ceremony. Undecorated prayers were also said to celebrate the union of Natalia and Larrion, along with the wedding vows. made by the bride and groom themselves. Natália says that, unlike what happens in more traditional weddings, on her big day she entered the ceremony before the groom, leaving some guests surprised. But the “exchange” also has an explanation: the figure of the bride, for her, represents the church that awaits the return of Christ (symbolically, the groom).

A certain amount of preparation was made by the bride and groom since they started planning the wedding until the day of the ceremony, on their own initiative. Natália and Larrion fasted some foods (chosen individually) and prayed together during this period, asking for every item needed for the wedding (menu, who would perform the ceremony, where, etc.). According to her, God would take on the role of ceremonialist. On the day, men did not need to wear a kippah (a hat that is a symbol of the Jewish religion) and the use of a scarf, by women, was also waived.

At the end of the ceremony, which began at 5 pm and ended at 6 pm, on the dot – the moment known as the one in which God visited Adam and Eve – the apostle Ayub asked the guests to look forward, up and back, in order to explain the symbology of the different cycles of life that precede marriage, and the future of the couple in the family (with children and descendants).

If Natália had to leave a tip for future couples? “Don’t be bound by the limitations of a religion. I never liked the wedding march or certain rites that don’t make sense to me, nor veils, wreaths, bouquets and huge dresses. They were both wearing sneakers and my wedding dress was simple and delicate. Don’t do anything to please or out of obligation. It’s something so personal, but guessers always criticize. It’s your party,” he adds.

Amanda Cruz and Eliezer Ribeiro

The story of the journalist’s marriage Amanda Cruz with the network analyst Eliezer Ribeiro it’s not conventional at all. The two have no religion, and even so they got married in September 2015, more because of pressure from their families, who wanted an “official” union, than because of their own desire.

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At the time, Amanda and Eliezer had been living together for two years, the same period in which they had become engaged. Throwing a big party and investing money in it didn’t even cross the minds of the couple who, in the end, opted for a simple, civil wedding, with a celebratory lunch right after.

As they are not religious, they even gave up a wedding ceremony – without a celebrant or ceremonialist, by their own choice, the bride and groom, right after the wedding at the registry office, received about 50 people for a barbecue with beer, at the house of the Amanda’s mother-in-law. There, they only made a small speech to those present, nothing more.

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As for the presence of traditions at the wedding, Amanda ended up opting for the classic white dress, but this also had nothing symbolic or planned – according to her, both the choice of model and the color of the piece were made respecting her personal taste at that time. . Simple decorations and a wedding cake were also at the mini reception, which didn’t need anyone’s blessing to be legitimate and full of love.

Amanda’s advice for couples (non-Catholics, especially) about to say “I do” is, first and foremost, that the lovebirds do what they feel most comfortable with when it comes to marriage:

“Sometimes the family presses and demands things that don’t make sense for both of them, but you have to be firm and focus on what you really want and how you’re really going to have fun. For my wedding, I chose to have fun and it was amazing, I wouldn’t change a thing,” she says.

Isabel Pacianotto and Christiano Braga

Who is umbanda, as well as the event producer Isabel Pacianotto and the lawyer Christian Braga, usually believe in the presence of a God, creator of heaven and earth, in addition to the strength of the orixás – as if they were the saints, in Catholicism – enlightened and blessed entities. In this way, a marriage celebrated based on Umbanda usually has the blessing of God, together with the presence of some important elements of nature.

When they got married in December 2016, in the right corner of Praia de Capricórnio (Caraguatatuba – SP) and celebrated by the caboclo (entity) head of the house, Bel and Christiano took advantage of the meeting of the sea with the river, the mountains of the region and the whole nature around them to celebrate with around 200 guests. Everyone (including the bride and groom) was dressed in white, regardless of whether or not they followed the religion.

Bel explains that in Umbanda there is no standard ceremony to be followed, so each terreiro has its own specific rituals. For example, some weddings have prayers, chants and readings of writings during the celebrations, where the bride and groom may or may not receive colored necklaces around their necks – it all depends on which branch of Umbanda they belong to.

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In the case of Bel and Christiano, in the period leading up to the wedding, they had to make a series of preparations for the big day:

“We received spiritual guidance to follow a precept that, in the week before the celebration, we abstain from alcoholic beverages, from consuming red meat, from sexual relations. We did herbal baths every day of that week, this way of purifying the body for the ceremony”, he describes.

The workers of the yard frequented by the couple, as well as the guests, also received guidance, so that they could avoid consuming alcoholic beverages from the day before until the moment of the ceremony – in this way, the vibratory level of the energies of all those present would be high.

For her, the greatest similarity between Catholic and Umbanda marriages is the search for the blessing of something superior for the couple’s union. In terms of parties, everything tends to be very similar, without many rituals or traditions, just having fun as the main focus.

Maria Fernanda Meireles and Bruno Morais

Even though she was raised in Catholicism and does not currently practice Buddhism, the coach Maria Fernanda Meireles decided to marry the headhunter Bruno Morais in a Buddhist ceremony, celebrated by the monk Maurício Hondaku🇧🇷 It’s just that, according to the precepts of religion (often considered a philosophy of life), in Buddhism marriage is seen in a very liberal way, not being seen as a duty or obligation, but as a personal option. Thus, it was after meeting Hondaku and becoming enchanted by Buddhism that Maria Fernanda made her decision.

“I didn’t even need to be adapted from Buddhism to be able to have a Buddhist ceremony at my wedding. It is a religion free of judgments and prejudices. For a Catholic marriage we would need to take courses, and I honestly don’t even know if they would allow me to do it, being a single mother”, she explains.

As we have already said, in Buddhism marriage is not a sacred celebration and, therefore, is configured as a social event, not a religious one. In the case of Maria Fernanda and Bruno, no preparation before or during the event was required of the bride and groom or guests: only the monk made some demands regarding the place where he would change clothes, the type of flowers (essential at the wedding) and the towel placed on the main table.

Making use of the so-called Nenju, a kind of Buddhist rosary (or rosary), the monk, the bride and groom and guests read some important rites of passage in Buddhism. At each reading, Hondaku explained its corresponding meaning and, to facilitate the understanding of those who were present, since…

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