“Nothing Can Replace Love”, an Honest Letter About the Loneliness Epidemic Affecting Gen Z

If men don’t usually talk about love even with their friends, opening their hearts to strangers is something even rarer. But, as always, there are exceptions.

Recently, a letter from a young man went viral on the Internet. In it, he shares his story and reveals that there is nothing that can fill the same space in our lives as love.

O awesome.club wants to share with you Ilya Piskulin’s letter about a girl he loved for a long time. Furthermore, he shows what would happen to the world if we ever faced the total absence of love.

“Today, during breakfast, I met the woman I loved for many years. She is married and pregnant. We greeted each other. When she left, I couldn’t stand it and called her. To be honest, when we talked, I was very emotional, as I haven’t been in the last 15 years.And I started to cry a lot.

5 years ago, we decided to separate. At that point, we had been together for 4 and a half years, sharing all of our moments and always supporting each other. We could spend 8, 12, even 24 hours together over many days and never get tired of each other. We ate, slept, played sports, dreamed, watched movies, played video games, fought, and felt a mutual understanding in all aspects of our lives. We were a reflection of each other. Of course, during these 5 years we went through difficult times, like visits to the hospital and projects that didn’t work out. We had to forgive and cry, we doubted each other and ourselves, but despite all that, we couldn’t stay apart more than a day. We were completely disconnected from the world and had a vague idea of ​​how other people lived.

Whenever we went out with other couples, we were surprised to see that there is a phenomenon where one person loves and the other lets himself be loved, a situation where two people decide to stay together even though one of them doesn’t feel anything for the other. Our case was totally different. People told us these situations and we were without reaction. Whenever we returned to our home from the real world, we swore with sincerity that we would love each other forever. We believed it and we knew it was true. We also knew that it was impossible not to be together: for us, separation was like ceasing to exist. However, needless to say, we weren’t perfect. Our relationship has also been through many trials by fire, some of them very difficult.

After 4 and a half years of relationship, we started to feel that our feelings were dying, that we were different from what we ideally should be, that the passion had disappeared and that maybe we should separate. I will never forget the expectation that this rupture caused us. We thought that we were two boats that would sail out on the open sea, we thought that the world would be full of worthy people who were as good as we are. We considered ourselves young and beautiful, and we thought it wouldn’t be at all difficult to find a soul mate, since the options were so varied.

More than 5 years have passed and if 10 or 15 years ago someone had told me that life would be like it is now, I would never have believed it. Nowadays, I see how the most beautiful and intelligent women and the most charming young men are alone. I remember a girl who was every boy’s crush and every girl’s envy. If someone told me that at 25 she would still be beautiful but she would be single and divorced, I would say that was a joke. And I also never could have imagined that the girl who was loved by all the boys would be a single mother at 25, like a friend of mine (I still take my breath away when I see her). I remember one of our conversations in which she confessed to me that she always thought she would have it all: a big family, a wonderful husband and a house of her own. But things happened in a slightly different way: abuse, infidelity, divorce…

I always went to watch the beauty contests in our city, this is no secret. I know the fate of many women in my city and almost all cases make me sad. If someone had told me that those women would be lonely and unhappy I would probably have laughed. But that’s what happened.

I don’t have failed friends. They all practice sports, work, have an active life, are pleasant and are between 22 and 35 years old. Interestingly, many of them are single. What’s worse is that I know they are absolutely realistic and believe in the possibility that they will remain so until the end of their lives. One day, I ran into a close friend who, like me, got separated and thought that the world would bring him many more opportunities. I always thought he was one of the most amazing men in the world and I always thought he would never be alone. I thought he had everything to find his soulmate. Now, he admits he will be single forever. I don’t know what happened for the world to get to this point where every day there are more people living in complete solitude.

Today, aged 26, I have knowledge and experience. I know what to do to gain respect and recognition, I know how to make people laugh and I know what to do to get them to hate me. I’ve learned how to get things done, but I don’t know what to do to fall in love again. This is the only feeling that cannot be created, invoked or imitated. He doesn’t belong to us and I know it’s a divine gift. And if God exists, then he is love. And poor man who lives love once. After that, it will always look smaller. If you are in love with someone right now, but feel that there will always be someone else who is prettier, smarter, and more interesting, remember that everything is temporary except love. Love is eternal. Passion ends, young people age, what is interesting becomes outdated and our cleverness becomes slower… Not love. Love will never belong to the past.

If you have a loved one by your side, don’t leave them. Our life is worth it for 5 or 6 people who will always be by our side, and one of them will be our great love. Don’t waste your happiness and your opportunities. If you do, you will regret it.

Do you want to know what my world is like? In the last 5 years I started to understand how important it is to be with a woman who knows how to talk, who knows how to laugh and knows how to enjoy life. I started to value people who know how to say something, who think and have their own opinion about life. Interestingly, the ability to be normal has turned into a rarity that we do anything for. And qualities such as respect, affection, sincerity and honesty are increasingly rare. In love, we cannot be false, but falsehood has become a form of survival. In my world, everything is beautiful and bright, but almost everything that attracted me 5 years ago turned out to be false, harmful and poisonous. Like forest mushrooms, which are always prettier than those we can eat.

I think I’m a happy person because in my life there was happiness. But I don’t know why I say “there was”. I’m happy and I want you to be too.”

What did you think of this letter? Did it remind you of any experience? Share your opinion about her in the comments.