“It’s called calm”, the Dalai Lama’s text that invites us to reflect

“It’s called calm and it cost me many storms. It is called calm and when it disappears…, I go out again in search of it.” Thus begins one of the Dalai Lama’s best-known poems, as well as exceptional from an emotional and psychological point of view. After all, only when we achieve that peace of mind, we think and act with greater clarity, success and harmony.

One of the leaders in the world of psychology who has the closest relationship with the Dalai Lama is Paul Ekman. Considered one of the pioneers in the study of emotions, he often comments in his lectures that his friendship with the spiritual leader of Tibetan Buddhism was a transformative experience for him.

It made him see, among other things, that The soul of places, as well as the essence of life itself, does not usually live in “hurried” people.. Rushing, states of worry, envy, fear or anger cloud reason and hinder the path to happiness. Because whether we like it or not, calm is everything. It is that pond of crystal clear waters where the Moon and the stars can dance. Also psychological balance.

A relaxed mind and calm heart respond better to life’s difficulties. Now, achieving that feeling, that subtle inner balance, is not something we can achieve overnight. As the Dalai Lama himself explains to us, neither a special season nor an enlightened mind are created in a single day. We need to take off our shoes from many things.

It’s called calmthe Dalai Lama’s poem

Calmness is one of the most sophisticated and difficult emotional skills to achieve. This is something that psychologist Paul Ekman knew perfectly well. However, something that the spiritual leader taught him in turn is that inner peace and mental serenity are also an impetus for ethics, for respect between people ⇔ It is called calm and the world evades it, ignores it, inventing wars that no one will ever win.

So, Those who lack that calm rarely grasp the consequences of their actions. They can also hardly offer well-being and respect to others if there is an excess of noise inside them, if there is an excessive load of adverse emotions. We are, in some way, that society that has stopped enjoying silence to allow ourselves to be trapped by anguish, anxiety and fear.

No society can advance if it is not capable of cultivating two basic nutrients: calm and compassion.

“It is called calm when you learn to love well, when selfishness gives way to giving and nonconformity fades to open your heart and soul, giving yourself whole to whoever wants to receive and give.
It is called calm when friendship is so sincere that all masks fall and everything can be told.
It is called calm and the world evades it, ignores it, inventing wars that no one will ever win.
It is called calm when silence is enjoyed, when the noises are not just music and madness but the wind, the birds, good company or the noise of the sea (…)”.

The calm person is like a tree that gives shade

Many of us undoubtedly have someone like this. One of those with a discreet, calm and always focused disposition. They are figures who radiate peace and with whom everything seems simple. The day to day becomes calm at your side and insecurities are appeased, stress and even worries are extinguished.

People with inner calm are like those great redwood trees of ancient beauty that offer shade and, at the same time, wisdom. Now, in addition to admiring them, it never hurts to imitate them, to actively proceed to imitate their attitude, their know-how, their mental tranquility.

Thus, one way to achieve that state is through mindfulness. Studies, such as the one carried out by doctors Brown, KW, and Ryan, RM (2003) and published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, They tell us that this practice allows us to better manage emotions and generate greater psychological well-being.

Calm is not just learning to live with peace, it is knowing how to move in peace in the midst of crises and adversity.

Calm is not just a state of mind. Something we know about emotions is that they have the power to condition our thoughts and actions.. In this way, one aspect to understand about the poem that the Dalai Lama left us is that it is not a simple set of verses on which to reflect. It’s a shot at action.

We must become aware that working on our internal calm is a strategy to improve our behavior, acquiring, in turn, a valuable coping strategy. Because it is not enough to just make use of inner serenity to live in peace. Calm is what allows us to move with greater confidence in the midst of chaos. It is, in turn, that mooring that allows us to decide better, it is the rudder with which to overcome adversity with adequate resources and making more accurate decisions.

Therefore, let us adopt this lesson of wisdom and personal growth in our daily lives. Let’s learn to foster that balance to accept what happens to us, but always seeking to resolve it.making inner peace the reflection from which to understand the world.

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