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Sometimes the straw that breaks the camel’s back is a tear and only then do you realize that you can’t take it anymore. It’s time to assume your vulnerability and process everything that happened.
In the end, the straw that breaks the camel’s back is usually a tear. Then, everything spills out and you are aware that you have reached the limit, that you can’t take it anymore and you feel defeated. We are often told that sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to be able to emerge again, but what happens if you have been in those depths for a long time and all you do is cry and cry?
In reality, there is no rush. Each person has their times, their particular rhythm to process emotions and allow themselves to germinate in calm silence, like plants. Because in fact, There are times when everything surpasses us and then there is no choice but to accept our vulnerability. and stay still to clarify priorities, to drain what hurts and only then ascend again.
There is something important that the psychotherapist Albert Ellis reminded us: Life is really difficult and not only because of the challenges and adversities that we must overcome every so often. Often, we must also fight against ourselves, against that innate desire to do everything well and achieve everything we set out to do.
Failing, falling, stumbling, losing and dealing with such a complex and uncertain reality is normal. But even so, it is difficult for us to accept it because we have been educated to be able to do everything. So, how to act when life overwhelms us?
“Every tear teaches mortals truth”.
-Plato-
The last straw is usually a tear (when you can’t take it anymore)
“What to do when you can’t take it anymore?” This is a question that many people ask themselves almost every day. The complex thing is that we live in a society in which the more you do, the more you are worth. Being busy and doing countless things defines that competent and highly effective person that everyone admires.
However, He who cannot handle his soul is marked as lazy, weak and even irresponsible. And what is worse, even the person himself has a negative perception of himself when he cannot fulfill his obligations. However, sometimes it happens, the straw that breaks the camel’s back is a tear and then one can no longer do anything but immerse oneself in that glass of disappointments, exhaustion and anguish.
Not being able to do more is not the end of the world, it is a wake-up call. When life hurts and tears emerge, there is only one option and that is to winter for a while, curl up with your own body and get in touch with your own emotions. Even though they hurt…
When you can’t take it anymore, life taken to the limit
And you, how much are you able to bear? Maybe too much. They may have made you believe that being strong means being able to handle everything. It is possible that they convinced you that the brave do not complain about anything and solve everything. Also that they have an answer for every problem and a mile-long back that carries their own and other people’s worries.
Until it finally happens, the straw that breaks the camel’s back is a tear and then you discover that you can’t take it anymore. You’ve been giving more than you have for so long and neglecting what you need that anguish dissolves in you like a sugar cube.
You have reached the limit and you have no choice but to accept it, to assume that perhaps you were doing more than you could and neglecting yourself more than you should.
The straw that breaks the camel’s back is usually a tear and then all you do is cry
Physical and mental exhaustion, headaches, problems falling asleep and the urge to cry. You have hit rock bottom, you perceive it, you notice your mind and your body like that stone that sinks into the depths and is no longer capable of rising. The last straw is usually a tear and then you can’t stop crying.
You can’t take it anymore. That moment has come when there is only one option: focus on yourself. It’s time to take off your armor full of blows, that armor of a false hero that tried to save everyone except yourself.. Now only you matter and healing what hurts. However, keep in mind: the process is slow, laborious and with numerous ups and downs.
You will have to hibernate, like bears. You will feel like a stone at the bottom of a river. Everyone moves while you perceive yourself as immobile, but in reality you are not a stone, You are a seed that sooner or later will end up germinating into something new and more beautiful.
This process takes time and you will have to navigate with your emotions in that delicate ascent to the surface…
You will bloom again, step by step and with help
The tears shed will allow you to nourish your subsequent emotional growth. Because Only when we drain the pain, do we make room for new hope.
Fatigue, for its part, will be present in your life for a while. In fact, it is a common factor in many mood disorders, such as depression, as explained in a study by Dr. Steven D. Targum, consultant in the department of psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital.
Just give yourself time, allow it to germinate with patience and help. Support is the daily encouragement that will guide you in the darkest moments and also the hand that, day by day, will pull you out of your depths. Because, at the end of the day, we all hit rock bottom sometimes, we all feel at some point that we have reached the limit. Although that experience is not the end, it is just a restart.
You will bloom again and your roots will then be stronger and deeper. Ready to continue growing in the direction you want, with renewed tones.
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