The origin of many of our disappointments is thinking that others would do for us what we would do for them. We always expect the same sincerity, the same respect and the same reciprocity, however, the values that define our hearts are not the same that live in the minds of others.

A simple way to find happiness may lie in minimizing our expectations. The less you wait, the more you can receive or find. It is certainly a somewhat controversial argument, however, it is not without its logic.

“Don’t expect anything from anyone, expect everything from yourself, that way your heart will store less disappointments.”

We all know that when it comes to our relationships, it’s impossible not to have expectations. We expect others to behave in certain ways and we want to be loved, defended and valued. Now, that doesn’t stop these predictions from failing at times. Those who expect too much from others usually end up hurt in some detail, some nuance.

How to stop expecting too much from others

No one is naive because they always need to see the good in people. We have the right to see him, find him and even promote him, but with some caution. Because disappointment is the sister of high expectations, so it’s more appropriate not to be dazzled ahead of time.

“Appearances don’t usually deceive us, what often fails are our own expectations of others…”

We can expect a lot from others, however, the right thing is always to expect more from ourselves.

To help us stop expecting too much from the people around us, we offer the following tips:

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Nobody is perfect, not even ourselves. If we were to satisfy the expectations that others have of us, we would live stressed and unhappy. Sometimes it’s impossible, no one is an example of perfection or absolute virtue. Just respect each other and exercise reciprocity in the most humble way possible.
Accept that we don’t always have to get something in return. This is an aspect that characterizes many people: “If I do you a favor, I expect another one in return.” As these things are not always fulfilled, the correct thing is to accept that others are as they are, and that they will not always do for us what we would be willing to do for them.
And of course, there are always those people who just aren’t worth it. Who don’t respect us or deserve to have us in their life. In such cases, it is necessary to let go, however difficult it may be.

To conclude: the less we wait, the more surprises we can have. That way we will be a little freer and our happiness will be less dependent on the behavior of others.

We are all fallible, we are all wonderfully imperfect beings trying to live in a world where sometimes chaotic disappointments are inevitable, but where sincere love and lasting friendships also inhabit.