How to Take the Next Step When You Don’t Know What You Want in Life

Do you know what to do when life doesn’t seem to help you achieve the many things you so desperately wanted to achieve?

This doubt of what to do when the feeling is to be lost and you don’t know what the next step is very common. It would be very easy if we had a crystal ball and could see what will happen next, wouldn’t it? But most people have no control over their own thoughts and feelings, let alone the lives of others and the world we live in.

Life has its own path, rhythm, flow and its own ends, and our job is not to control life, but to go with the flow of it. For when we try to interfere with the natural flow of life is when we make all sorts of rigid plans and then desperately try to adjust life to suit ourselves, and thus there is no way not to get hurt.

I already broke my face a lot, thinking that things were going to turn out one way, when in fact they took a completely different turn. An example was when I divorced my ex-husband and many people thought we had the perfect relationship and I also had this illusion. But when I finally took off the rose-colored glasses and realized the mistakes and problems we had, our relationship was far from perfect.

So what do you do when nothing feels right and when dreams and plans seem to be falling apart?

It is important to know that there are two sides to being human. There is the ego, which we create ourselves, which is fearful and selfish, constantly looking for love, approval and validation in other people, things and experiences. This is the rigid side, connected to the idea of ​​how things should be, how life should unfold and how everyone should behave. I like to call this side our self-defense mechanism.

And there is the other side which is the real person, which can be called the soul, or essence. This side is overflowing with love. Love for yourself and love for the world around you. This side knows the reason for existence itself, and the purpose of life. This side recognizes itself in all things and people, and knows that everything that happens in life is meant to serve the person, to make him grow and strengthen.

When we feel lost and don’t know what the next step will be, the ideal is not to be afraid, since being lost is just another attempt by your essence to bring you back on the path of life.

And that turn helps people build life on a strong, loving, healthy foundation. The essence is there to guide us, motivate us and take us to the next steps necessary to create the true, loving, balanced, and joyful life, that is, the life we ​​truly deserve.

At that time of my divorce it was hard to see what life had in store for me. At the moment, it all seemed unfair, because I had my plans and dreams and they were being shattered into a thousand pieces. But the fact is that later life took me so far, it gave me the chance to grow, to live my true essence and even better, to find a new love that completes me 100%. Today I understand what I needed to go through was essential to become the person I am today, to be able to open my heart to the new possibilities that life had in store for me.

Remember that when you feel alone, your essence is trying to get attention, reminding you to be as smooth as water. To abandon fixed plans and concepts and allow events to take their natural course. And when you surrender, life will take great care of you, for sure.

Living the essence:

Imagine what your life would be like if you lived your essence 100% of the time. What would your life be like if there was no ego, fear, or selfishness? What would you change in your relationships, in your work, what would you change in your relationship with yourself?

What if I told you that it’s possible to live your true essence most of the time. That it’s possible to make that significant shift, and shift the various areas of your life: like career, relationships, self-esteem, etc., to a place where your defense mechanism doesn’t run the show. Yes, I can confirm that it is possible.

One of the options that can help you find the essence is with encouraging readings. That click inside and make us think and reflect on our lives.

Yoga and mindfulness meditation also help to find balance and alignment between areas of life.

But for me the ultimate change came when I encountered the coaching process. It was a very intense process of self-knowledge that changed my life. So much so that I ended up becoming a coach to facilitate this transformation process in other people’s lives.

Of course, there is no magic formula or fancy scheme, but hard work that you will have to commit to a lot. My only promise is that it’s really worth creating your own rules and living from its essence entirely.

And I ask you, are you living your essence?

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Article published at brasilpost.com.br