How to get out of an abusive relationship

Abusive relationships are more common than we think and many women end up suffering in silence, afraid of being alone or because they love these men too much. Learn how it is possible to get rid of these unhealthy relationships and turn around to resume life and be happy.

1 – Realize abusive behavior

Abusive relationships are not just violent relationships, but any relationship that involves some form of abuse – be it physical, emotional or psychological. You don’t have to wait for a black eye to realize that it’s time to end this suffering.

Many women remain in abusive relationships for years, believing that an hour will pass, but in fact the partner’s behavior always remains the same. One day he scolds her, the next he says she’s useless and so on, destroying the self-esteem of someone who probably isn’t having very good self-esteem anymore.

Over time, some women get used to this situation and end up not even realizing that being used to abuse can lead to serious psychological problems. So, even if the abuse is “only” verbal, it is important to keep an eye out and not give space for abusive attitudes to be repeated.

Find out if he is an abusive man by checking to see if he exhibits most of these attitudes:

• He has been abusive to other people;
• He is very jealous and possessive;
• He wants to manipulate you and control your life;
• He punishes you for things you do by depriving you of something you enjoy;
• He feels superior to you and/or others;
• He changes mood sharply;
• He is aggressive and impatient in everyday situations;
• He says one thing, but does another;
• Disrespects other women, like her own mother, for example;
• Refuses to seek help or doesn’t even bring it up.

Men like that need help and it’s rare for them to be changed by the love they feel for their partner. This behavior is like a disease and must be treated, as it is very difficult to change these attitudes alone. If he is not willing to treat himself and change, maybe the best way is to leave him.

2 – Seek help

Once the woman realizes that she is in an abusive relationship, she should seek help from other people to have support and be able to get out of it and get back on her feet. This woman may begin to share the events with friends or family or seek out a psychologist.

In these cases, it is important to remember that one should not face this situation entirely alone. Depending on the type of abuse, it can be dangerous to try to solve the problem without the help of others. So it’s worth getting help.

3 – Be cautious

It is essential to be very careful that the aggressor does not realize that the woman wants to leave him, because this could cause a crisis in him and make him attack her or cause her some other harm. So if your partner tends to be aggressive or out of control, it’s best to prepare for the breakup without him knowing.

4 – Invest in your self-esteem

For a woman to be able to get rid of an abusive relationship, she needs to be strong and sure of herself. Therefore, she must first fight for the recovery of her self-esteem that has been undermined by the continuous abuse in this relationship.

The first step is to stop taking your partner’s criticism seriously. In this way, the woman prevents him from destroying the image she has of herself. Once this is done, she must seek to value herself, realizing her qualities and her positive attributes. She should not refuse praise and should always think of herself in a positive light.

5 – End the relationship

This is perhaps the most difficult step, but it is also the most liberating. You don’t have to wait until you don’t feel anything for him anymore to finish. Loving your partner doesn’t necessarily mean they do you good or make you happy. And even if he loves you, that doesn’t guarantee he’ll change and be nicer to you a month from now or ten years from now.

So, get rid of this relationship as soon as you realize that you are strong and supported enough to handle the separation and the possible conflicts it will bring. Think that in the end this can be the salvation of your life and you can have a much happier and more pleasant future, without insults or aggression.

Love your life and love yourself. So you will be able to discern what is good for you and what is bad for you and you will be able to make the right choices for your happiness and well-being.