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He loves you but doesn’t date you. Find out why!

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You go out together on Wednesday, Friday, Sunday. They share sheets and inside jokes about a weird woman who just walked by. They count the stars on the farm, wake up with affectionate messages on the phone, go out with friends. He says you look beautiful in one night, takes your hand, gives you a kiss that makes you swear by all the raindrops that have ever fallen on Earth that, yes, they are in love.

For know that you may even have conquered the pseudo love of your life. Yes you can. You were capable, you really looked beautiful that night with friends, you were affectionate but not touchy-feely, you were sexy but not vulgar, you were tough but not unconquerable, you were really good company. It’s not your fault he doesn’t want to date you.

Every time this movie is repeated in my life or in the life of someone I know, I go home thinking over and over again without commas without dots: where is the mistake?

When you say you like someone, don’t you want to grab that person and never let go? Don’t you want her just for you, with that cute and sometimes boring exclusivity that boyfriends have? Don’t you want her not to look away, for her to give you satisfaction, for her to know everything about your life, for what she feels now to grow little by little on a daily basis, until it reaches that point that others call love?

Not. If that person has something between his legs and a few fewer affective neurons, the answer is no. A resounding NO.

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It’s hard to admit this, because we grew up in the fairy tale where the prince rips your guts and your hearts out of your body to win over the princess. But with the facilities in the art of conquest that the modern world offers, it is impossible to expect megalomaniacal acts from others. And men, for cultural or hormonal reasons, whatever, don’t have that vision of romantic love that so rejoices and devastates the lives of us women.

Thank God. Can you imagine how crazy a society full of mimimi and nhénhénhé? We would sink into a worldwide crisis of DR or of compulsive crying.

It turns out that there are those moments in life when men want to make out with someone (yes, they’re kind of needy and don’t know how to be alone), but without the obligation to ask hidden depths of your life. No obligation to share the perrengues. They just want a light relationship, they just want a high-spirited and interesting person by their side to make their days more fun. They just want good, cozy sex. That’s when you come in. And me, obviously.

Can he fall in love and you get married and have kids and live in a house surrounded by green grasses? Of course. But he might not fall in love and go on spending his days as if you were the last woman in his life. And I hope it is so, too. We deserve to be treated well.

It turns out that when the man says he “doesn’t want to date” or “he’s not ready to get involved”, we kind of feel like ripping their faces off with a razor. We feel cheated, used. As if the guy was a bad person, just because he didn’t want to make a commitment to us before society.

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Sometimes the guy likes you, yes, a lot. But the practical b&w male head can’t see himself abandoning the single life just yet. Maybe he’s one of those people who keep complaining that a woman is no good and when they bump into a nice one, they run for the hills.

Or, in the worst case, he may be looking for a serious relationship, yes (and will be in a few weeks), but not with you. That’s because he found some qualities in the other girl that are important to him that you didn’t have. And that doesn’t make you unlovable in any way. You probably have his qualities, they just weren’t enough (or you didn’t have time to show them) for the guy to tie up. I like the ass, right?

Men, understand one thing. Women like affection, yes. But they care about genres, about nomenclatures, they care about having someone to call “mine”. They need a date or marriage proposal to feel valued. So, if your girl really wants to make the ones you have official, it’s worth thinking about whether or not you like her to live a thing of that level, before going out screaming to the four corners that he’s a confirmed bachelor and won’t drop polygamy. Who wants everything, one hour is left with nothing.

And girls, understand. If you like a guy and want to be with him, be. But be aware that the situation is extremely comfortable and may never go beyond that. Who doesn’t want to have the company of someone nice to go to the movies, sleep with a spoon, talk about life and, on top of that, still be able to kiss and meet the other six billion and shits of people out there in this world?

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Don’t be a victim, no. If you’re willing to fund this relationship, because you like the guy, know that it’s bilateral. Everyone’s having fun. Well, at least it should. The important thing is to never, ever lose the respect of a relationship, whatever it may be. Stand up and show your worth.

Now, we understand a lot when you think it’s a delay in life to insist on a relationship that doesn’t go forward. People here don’t like anything that doesn’t evolve, stagnant or crabbing. Would you stay in a job you really like, but don’t have the chance to grow professionally? In fact, does not growing up make you a terrible professional? Sometimes you’re just in a small company that doesn’t have much to offer you.

Both sides of the coin can be applied to almost everything in life. Enjoy the moments, create experiences, have stories to tell. That’s where your market value is created. But then onward. Go conquer your rightful place in the lives of the people who like you and that you like.

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