Gouinage: discover all the pleasures of a relationship without penetration

Every woman grew up believing the idea that sex needs penetration. Some say it’s only sex when it involves penetration. But will it? Is it possible to have maximum pleasure with touches, caresses and everything that involves the famous foreplay? Of course yes! And we explain (and demystify) everything about gouinage here. Check out:

what is gouinage

Without a direct translation into Portuguese, gouinage is a French term meaning “lesbian sex”. Anyone who thinks that practice consists only of preliminaries is wrong. According to sexologist Maria Beatriz Devides (CRP 08/22019), there is a difference between gouinage and preliminary.

“Foreplay is everything we do after sex is over until the next sexual encounter. Everything that happens in intimacy, from the moment you are there, exposed, without clothes, in partnership and with both of you giving each other pleasure, all this is sex!”, explains the specialist.

5 tips to practice gouinage and have a lot of pleasure

Also according to Maria Beatriz, culturally, sexual intercourse is very genitalized. That is, most people consider sex, or having sex, only when there is penetration. And we know that there doesn’t need to be this act to have pleasure, right? But, if you’re still not very familiar with the practice, relax! The following tips will help you to explore the gouinage and discover new pleasures:

1. The skin as the largest sexual organ

You may have heard that the skin is our largest organ, right? Nothing better than taking advantage of all its extension to seek and give pleasure to the partner. According to Maria Beatriz, one of the ways to better enjoy gouinage is to explore the different sensations that the skin can provide us.

“For example, rubbing, rubbing, biting, kissing, licking, caressing, applying a little more pressure to a certain area, varying the intensity and frequency of that pressure – either with hands or by contact with other objects”, she emphasizes. The rule here is to discover new places that give pleasure and not be ashamed!

2. The 5 senses come into play

Smell, hearing, taste, touch and vision: these are the five senses we learn from a young age. And nothing better than growing up and learning that they can be explored in other ways! In gouinage, they are essential for a super hot relationship and full of discoveries.

The sexologist recalls that it is important (and very valid) to sharpen smells and flavors and vary textures. So don’t hold back: bet on sex toys, games and everything that explores all your senses and gives you pleasure.

3. Chat and give your feedback

Any sexual relationship, to be hot, needs to have a level of affinity. Nobody has a crystal ball to know exactly what the other likes, right? So invest in the conversation with your partner or partner.

Bet on new things, new touches and sensations, but always talk later about what the other liked, what was not so cool and what needs to be changed. Thus, you discover new ways of feeling and giving pleasure!

4. No taboos!

As we have already said, sex is very much linked to culture. And, in a genitalized society, it is normal to have the belief that sex only occurs when there is penetration. Maria Beatriz remembers that “you can explore a lot and really find pleasure far beyond just stimulating penetration, and this is very important when we talk about sexual pleasure. Pleasure is not just penetration, this is a big mistake, a big cultural myth.”

It is worth mentioning here that man can indeed feel a lot of pleasure in gouinage! “It is a myth to think that men do not benefit from this practice without penetration. Because always, when there is a much greater exploration of the potentialities of this body, the pleasure increases for both, for everyone who is participating in this practice!”, says the sexologist.

5. No rush

A quickie, sometimes, even goes well. But let’s face it: nothing better than that long sex and done with all the attention in the world, right? And the gouinage demands a lot of that: calm, attention to every sensation and a lot of commitment.

So don’t be in a hurry to get there. Explore everything you feel, talk to your partner and discover new pleasures that maybe you didn’t even know existed!

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