How many times do we stop to think about our life, the dreams we never realized, the desire to rest, the vacation we so deserved? From childhood we learn to take responsibility little by little for a series of things, from making the bed in the morning, to taking on responsibilities that school and family life presents us with.
Religion also teaches us to always take care of others, to do good, and we grow up hearing that the best way is always to look at our partner, children, parents, brothers and sisters, friends. This process is extremely important, because through exchange relationships, we are establishing our identity, learning to live in society, and strengthening ourselves as human beings.
However, we end up using all our energy in order to always supply the other’s desire, at times the work occupies this space, causing an intense balance.
On the other hand, I see people who are tired, stressed and very unhappy, and most of the time they don’t see themselves as responsible for finding themselves like this, so discouraged.
I realize that the messages we have been receiving since we were little are extremely important, but most of the time they forget to teach us how to importance of looking at ourselves, to learn to take care of ourselves. All this added to the responsibilities we assume ends up taking on a very large proportion, and it doesn’t take long for us to start feeling tired, suffocated, longing for moments of tranquility.
When we suggest people take a day a week to get a massage, read a book, go to the gym, the answer is always the same: I don’t have time! There was not enough energy left to try a new venture, the house ends up being the best place to return to, the comfort zone, which in reality shows itself as another place where you have endless tasks to do.
We realize that not even the increase in stress-related illnesses are reasons enough to slow down our pace of work, leading to a real change in lifestyle.
At times we come to think that life is so intense, that we live day after day, every day the same, from home to work, from work to home, the market, the bank, the children’s school.
This is the time to stop and look for solutions to change this situation, and learn to select priorities, and in this case, you are the priority, the main actor in his life. Going backstage and really living the role of taking care of yourself, looking at yourself.
At first you may feel a little insecure, selfish, but over time you will experience the pleasure of giving yourself a day, or a few hours, just to take care of yourself, even if it is not doing anything, the important thing is a few moments just for you.
So, when you start taking actions that reveal your care for your desire, it will be clear that everything else will be lighter, and you will be able to enjoy all other responsibilities with pleasure, more enthusiasm and energy. After all, these changes can only start from yourself, providing happiness and well-being.
Psychologist and specialist in Eating Disorders has been working for over 14 years. She is a reference in this area for carrying out activities focused on treatments that involve the direct relationship between weight disorder and psychology. CRP: 08/06502-1
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