After all, is a relationship full of ups and downs worth it?

Almost everyone’s dream is to find a great love for life. But it turns out that perfect relationships seem to exist only in the movies. In real life, the story is different. Almost all relationships sooner or later end, mainly because social prejudices are too strong, feelings are too ephemeral and unions start only out of fear of loneliness and not out of true love.

Today the awesome.club wants you to pay attention to 7 important tips when thinking about building a strong relationship.

A mature person never stops working on himself, and love is just another impetus for that. She is not afraid to change her mind. In addition, she recognizes vulnerabilities and knows how to be flexible and understandable. Two people who love each other strive not only to be better for themselves, but for others.

An independent person does not look to his partner for a source of inspiration and does not try to fill a void in his soul, on the contrary, he always seeks to share what he has and what he feels. Childish people don’t usually have the strength to love. Psychologist Morgan Peck, in the book ‘The Road Less Traveled’ calls this painful addiction ‘anti-love’. Don’t be surprised if the other person, who is always just used to receiving, leaves the other at a difficult time.

The famous phrase we hear at weddings, that the couple will be together in good times and bad, should be taken seriously. It means that two people who want to create a family understand love not only as an overwhelming feeling, but also a decision to create a bond. The essence of mature relationships is the sharing of attention and energy, even if many doubts arise along the way.

Acting with patience in relation to the weaknesses and particularities of the other can be boring, uncomfortable and tiring, but it is the basis for a harmonious relationship. For love to be created it is necessary to work constantly.

If you just avoid grudges and mistakes, over time this buildup of feelings will explode, and the relationship won’t last.

What distinguishes a child from an adult is the sense of responsibility. Depending on the level of responsibility of two people it is possible to judge how ‘mature’ a relationship is. It’s amazing to have a shoulder you can lean on, right? What if you were that shoulder too? Relationships like this are stronger and more real.

A mature person knows who she is, can define what her goals are and therefore manages to respect the limits of the other, always looking out for the interests of both. In relationships like this, there is no pressure. There is freedom and commitment.

Grudge, disappointment and pain are feelings that will always exist and it is not the loved one who will be able to protect us from them. It takes courage to accept difficulties, not always look for someone to blame and make learning the best way to overcome new obstacles, always with sincerity.

Some psychologists claim that these 7 points are very important for building true and strong relationships. They don’t recommend rushing to start a family, especially when we’re not sure the other person is willing. It’s always better to make the most of your time than to spend more time healing wounds in the future.