If we consider that non-verbal language constitutes between 60 and 65% of our communication, we can say that it “speaks” louder than words. Indeed, some of our habitual postures can hide interesting meanings. One is the way we sit when we are with our partner, through which we can take a mini-X-ray of our relationship. This fact was demonstrated by Dr. Georgina Barnett, specialist in non-verbal language and author of the book on relationships The Mottos🇧🇷 In a recent interview, she revealed that the way we sit with our partner says more than we think.
O awesome.club invites you to select your most common position when sitting down with your partner to determine what may be going on in your relationship.
1. On separate sofas
This position is recurrent in couples who have been in a stable relationship for several years. While sitting on separate sofas may indicate a lack of proximity between the two, this is not necessarily true, as sitting in different spaces could simply mean that each has become accustomed to the presence of the other.
2. Putting your legs over each other
This position usually indicates that both feel happy and comfortable with their partner. And while this is generally true, in some cases it can have a slightly negative meaning. Whoever rests his legs on his partner may be the one who takes control of the relationship and dominates it, so leaning on his partner would demonstrate this disparity in command.
3. One sitting next to the other on the same sofa, keeping in touch
Such posture is also common and shows that the couple feels happy. After the first passionate state of enchantment, the two feel comfortable with each other, always trying to stay connected. This way of sitting also expresses that people feel confident in their relationship, so that they can leave a physical space between them, without feeling that they have to be together to show that they love each other.
4. At the ends of the same sofa
People who adopt this distanced position on the couch visually demonstrate that they have moved away after an argument. However, if there is no conflict, it is likely that the placement indicates something more serious, such as the fact that the couple is starting to move away, which would be further aggravated if the two cross their legs pointing in the opposite direction.
5. Sitting curled up in a corner of the sofa
Many can see this position and think that there is closeness between the couple, but this may not be the case. The person in the corner is, on many occasions, the one who holds the power in the relationship and feels confident in it, while the one who lies down occupies a place of submission and lack of trust in the relationship. In fact, the position can be understood as a search for contact and attachment to the other.
6. Together at the center
This is one of the most positive ways, as it indicates that you both feel loved and equally empowered, as the purpose of sitting like this is simply to be together. It is usually common in the first periods of strong passion of a relationship, as security is sought. Partners may even bow their heads towards each other, which denotes an emotional and physical bond between the two.
Which of these positions do you usually adopt when sitting with your partner? Do you think that understanding what they mean can help detect and resolve conflicts in a relationship? Tell us in the comments!
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