9 tips for a happy marriage

Those who live a lasting love story not only can but should change their attitudes from time to time – and encourage their partner to change too

1. Encourage affection and kindness

As? Notice your partner’s kind gestures and return it with a smile or a thank you.

Because? Acting kindly encourages future kindnesses. Just don’t exaggerate: studies indicate that successful relationships respect the ratio of five compliments to one
critical, on average.

2. Remove from the bedroom what “steals” your hard-on

As? Start with TV. The bed is a sacred space for intimacy, it should not be associated with anything that diminishes desire.

Because? Scientists found that couples who abolished the TV in the bedroom had sex twice as often.

3. Mentalize the union

As? She never sleeps upset with the man who conquered her, even if he is wrong. Before you turn off the lights, remember some of the best moments of the two of you and mentally list all his qualities.

Because? Research proves that this mindset alleviates disappointments and desires for revenge, having been presented at a United Nations event as a strategy to achieve world peace.

4. Remember the good times

As? Put in a box everything that rekindles the memory of the beginning of the courtship or the first years of marriage. It is worth including letters, photographs, movie tickets, concert tickets, postcards, a thousand trinkets.

Because? Looking at objects that refer to happy times makes the feeling return.

5. trance more

As? Make the “sacrifice” of eating a square of semisweet chocolate once a day (no more than that!). Several surveys reveal that the candy makes women more sexually active.

Because? Chocolate stimulates the brain to produce dopamine, the love substance we release during an orgasm.

6. Practice Hawaiian breathing

As? Everyone knows that backbiting wears the relationship down, but it’s not easy to stay quiet, right? The next time he pisses you off, use the Hawaiian technique: inhale through your nose for one second and exhale through your mouth for two, saying “ha” (very softly) as you exhale.

Because? This simple exercise gets you more centered by turning off the body’s stress response.

7. Invite for a walk

As? Choose a quiet park and walk together, hand in hand.

Because? Without walls or limits, awareness of what is around us increases. In addition to opening you up to each other, the beauty of the setting will make you both feel more connected. Not to mention that it’s almost impossible to be in a bad mood in the middle of nature, isn’t it?

8. Encourage differences

As? When a couple complains that the fire of passion has gone out, it’s because the differences between them ended up suffocated by routine or frequent fights. Convince your husband to rescue friends and hobbies from the time when you didn’t know each other or to venture into areas you don’t dominate (nor intend to dominate). Do the same with yourself.

Because? The more they do different things, the less likely they are to end up sitting in front of the TV with no new subject to talk about.

9. Define a common dream

As? Any normal couple makes a lot of plans, but they tend to get trampled by the hustle and bustle of everyday life or the goals that involve the children. Every beginning of the year, therefore, think of a “madness” to be carried out by two. It is worth visiting another part of the country, learning a new language or enrolling in a dance course.

Because? Reflecting on the future is one of the most effective ways to prolong marital bliss, as it means that you intend to be together for a long time to come.