9 Myths That Romantic Movies Have Us Believing And How They Can Harm Your Relationship

There is nothing better than watching a beautiful Disney production, or a delicious romantic movie and immersing yourself, even for two hours, in a wonderful fantasy world, forgetting all your problems and obligations. However, according to a study, not all the teachings of romantic movies should be taken literally, as some are loaded with dangerous ideas that can negatively influence our relationship.

Today the awesome.club will talk about some myths that these movies usually show. Check carefully so they don’t affect your relationship.

Examples: Notebook of a Passion (2004), How I Met Your Mother (2005-2014)

The idea of ​​\u200b\u200bfinding a soul mate is often highly appreciated by those who believe in fate. However, a situation like this can lead the person to behave passively in relation to life. In addition, according to some psychologists, it can lead people to live in very short relationships, as they give up the relationship for any problem. Such behavior makes people think they are not in charge of their own love lives.

Examples: Titanic (1997), Love, Great Love (1961)

“Love at first sight” is a very convenient idea for filmmakers because it helps save a lot of movie time. However, although just an exchange of glances is enough to find someone beautiful, creating a connection a little deeper is something that takes a longer time.

Examples: Diary of a Passion (2004)

According to film industry professionals, sometimes, intense fights between characters are just a way to make the viewer understand that there is a conflict in the story told. It is natural that a couple does not always think the same way and have some disagreements, but screaming, breaking things, or driving wildly are not very common attitudes. More than a disagreement, behavior like this seems like a sign that the person has problems controlling their own anger.

Examples: Pretty Woman (1990), Love Date (2002)

Generally, in movies, finding a mate is presented as the solution to all problems. In some cases, love turns out to be just something that improves the character’s life, which is perfectly possible, but this idea can lead some people to think that their lives will never be complete without a partner. According to a study, being single means having more time for social interactions, therefore, more happiness.

Some exaggerated examples usually place a rich man who appears to save a woman, offering a happy future at her side. In addition to the many problems related to gender inequality, these cases are often shallow and do not look seriously and really at the impacts of inequality on the longevity of a relationship.

Examples: How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days (2003), 10 Things I Hate About You (1999)

In some films, lying is not necessarily a problem. That is, a person lies and the relationship still ends well, which is a little strange when we think about real life. About this, psychologists claim that the lies that partners tell each other, take away authenticity from the relationship, cause discomfort in almost all family members and can even cause health problems.

Examples: Beauty and the Beast (1991), True Love (2011)

There are many examples of stories of people changing their partner’s behavior; there are even those who don’t want to know about a serious relationship, because they love to feel free, and suddenly change their minds. Projecting our desires into the lives of others is passive-aggressive behavior that crosses some boundaries and should have no place in healthy relationships.

Examples: Cinderella (1950), The Princess Diaries (2001), She’s All That (1999)

This topic, also very present in the cinema, leads us to think that changing your hairstyle and putting on a little makeup (we can’t forget the good old face mask with cucumbers in the eyes) are infallible strategies to attract the person you love. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to change our appearance, but it shouldn’t be done to impress others.

Examples: Friends (1994-2004), Pride and Prejudice (2005)

First of all, this myth goes against the rule of “no it’s not”, or “my body, my rules”. In addition, by showing one person saying “no” and the other insisting, the film ends up encouraging persecutory behavior, which is usually portrayed in movies as something romantic, but can be scary in real life. Not to mention that behavior like this usually attracts people with problems to make commitments.

Examples: Celeste and Jesse For Life (2012), Love Actually (2003)

It is always very complicated to understand that a relationship, to which we dedicate so much time and so much effort, did not work out. That’s why it’s hard to accept that the other person has become a friend, especially when she’s the one who broke up. Often, the best thing is for the two to stay away from each other, so that the termination does not influence future relationships. Psychologists recommend waiting 6 to 12 months before starting a friendship with an ex.

Do you agree with these myths? And what other details about relationships do you think movies tend to exaggerate?