8 Signs to know if your relationship is in crisis or has come to an end

Often, after a serious fight, it comes to mind: “Isn’t it time for me to part?” In fact, a conflict-free relationship exists only in Disney princess movies and love estrangement between two people is normal. So, instead of ending the connection with the loved one without thinking too much about it, you need to first understand if it is really the end of your relationship and not just another difficult period that will end soon.

O awesome.club researched how to differentiate simple moments of crisis from situations that demand an end to the relationship. Check it out:

Crisis: the urge at times to be alone, quiet or hanging out with friends without your soulmate is absolutely normal and it benefits the relationship. Psychologists even advise couples who spend a lot of time together or work in the same office to take short breaks and dedicate themselves to giving themselves the chance to be surprised by their partner.
The end: you already spend a lot of time apart, but you feel good and start to smile involuntarily just thinking about your partner’s next business trip. If you look forward to the moment when the other person leaves for work or with friends so you don’t see him for a few hours, despite not seeing each other regularly, it’s a sure sign that the end has come.

Crisis: from time to time, couples face the fact that the presence of the other begins to bother. Routine and a restless life can disrupt any relationship. Often, just out of tiredness, we unload problems on our loved ones and dream of hiding in a forest so that no one bothers us. During these times, you may find that you have really grown tired of your partner and start to see only his or her faults. But, in these situations, try to rest or go out with your friends without the presence of the partner or even take a brief trip without the other.
The end: you scream with joy when your partner leaves because you feel so good without them or with your friends. And as soon as she finds out he’ll be back soon, her good mood ends. You forget to write each other adorable messages like “How are you?” or “I miss you” as there are situations or people far more interesting than your relationship. Maybe it’s time to part ways.

Crisis: It’s always difficult to agree on all compromises, especially if both have strong personalities and neither wants to compromise. This often leads to fights. But if there are discussions about future plans or some sort of search for a solution to problems, it means that the couple is not indifferent to each other. And it is precisely dreams and joint ideas that keep two people together during fights or crises.
The end: Is your partner planning to change jobs (or worse, move cities for a job) and were you the last to know? Or can you hardly imagine yourself with this person in 10 or 15 years? It is possible that they even stopped discussing their projects or goals simply because the two of them care little about each other’s opinions or because they never built those plans. If so, does it make sense to continue the relationship?

Crisis: fights in a relationship between two people who love each other are totally normal. We all experience emotions and sometimes couples have conflicts. And even if, after a big fight, you slammed the door or went to your parents’ house, wait a little. Calm down, discuss the problem, find a solution, and continue the relationship with your loved one. For some couples, disagreements occur more often simply because they are both emotional. But that doesn’t mean it’s time to part ways for good.
The end: if they started fighting almost every day and for no serious reason, it’s worth thinking about. And if the big arguments that once ended in a passionate reconciliation turn into routine fights, you don’t react to what’s happening and you’re not afraid of losing the other, then it’s time to think if it’s worth moving on. Relating is, above all, joy, not permanent conflicts.

Crisis: There is a saying that opposites attract. And certainly people from different professions (and different points of view) can find it very interesting to be with each other — although occasionally there can be a problem. Couples who love each other always find a way out of disagreements that makes them both happy, even if they first have to raise their voices or break a plate (depending on how emotional the couple is).
The end: from early in the morning, everyone makes their own plans for the day and lives happily in their own way, not wanting to waste time in planning something to do together with their partner. If this happens too often, it is possible that the relationship has come to an end.

Crisis: manipulating a partner is a type of psychological violence, but sometimes we choose this method to get something we want. For example, we refuse to bond with our partner after a fight, or we throw a tantrum to get attention. If you notice similar behavior in you or your partner, but not very regularly, this may just be a reason to discuss the situation or go into couples therapy, but not to end the relationship.
The end: if your partner only accepts an intimate relationship with you in exchange for something (a gift, household chores, travel), this is not normal. It is better to run away from a partner who abuses manipulation. There is no need to link your life with that of a person who humiliates you, convincing you that you are not worthy of them. Or a person who creates conflicts all the time for the sole purpose of solving their own problems or gaining some advantage for themselves. This type of relationship is dangerous for mental health. And believe me: it can be dangerous even for physical health.

Crisis: in a healthy relationship, both parties are held responsible for their common future. So in a difficult period the two try to find a way out of the situation. If, at the time of a serious fight, you notice that your partner, despite the insults, apologizes or is willing to listen to you, give it a chance.
The end: If you notice that the lack of understanding increases every day and only you care about the relationship, maybe it’s time to have a good DR (Relationship Discussion). In a healthy relationship, the normal thing is not to have major power struggles, reproaches and blackmail. Both people have the same rights and responsibilities. Pressure from one of the partners, the thirst for superiority and, at the same time, the unwillingness to assume responsibility indicate an imbalance of power. Maybe you shouldn’t continue in a relationship like this.

Crisis: some degree of selfishness can be healthy in a relationship. Don’t do something you don’t like in the name of love. To be okay with each other, you need to be okay with yourself, and you have the right not to support your partner’s plans for the next few years if it jeopardizes your future — for example, their desire to move to a country or city where you don’t want to live. However, this is not a reason to part ways, but a reason to discuss the situation calmly and find a solution that satisfies both parties.
The end: a critical situation is when you stop asking your partner for advice, preferring to talk to a friend or your mother – after all, you know you won’t hear words of support from him. Or you are no longer interested in the achievements of your better half (or former better half). The lack of support, starting with everyday things and ending with important moments in life, indicates the possible end of a relationship.

Have you ever ended a relationship for the wrong reasons or, conversely, have you stayed in a relationship that should have ended by now?

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