7 things happy couples do before bed

We live in a fast-paced world and we are always running around because of work, studies, children and bills we need to pay.

In the midst of all this, sometimes we end up leaving our relationship in the background – after all, we are only human!

However, over time, a relationship that is not properly nurtured can end up becoming a source of frustration for both of you.

If you don’t have a lot of time available during the day, how about taking the few minutes before bed to put into practice some habits that happy couples adopt often?

Of course, these habits are not rules and they don’t apply to all couples, as each relationship works differently, but adopting some of them can help reinforce the feelings that exist between you.

1. They remember how much they love each other

Even if the day has been tiring and full of stress and you both know that the next day will not be less stressful, it’s important to remind your partner that you love them and vice versa.

You don’t need to make big declarations of love: a classic “I love you”, but full of feeling, will already provide a better night for both of you.

2. Whenever possible, they go to bed together

In this case, when we talk about “going to bed together”, we are really talking about bedtime. Unfortunately, due to the busy routine, many couples go to bed at different times, missing important moments of connection with each other.

Happy couples, on the other hand, whenever possible, try to share the moment of retiring, taking the opportunity to get more intimate by brushing their teeth and getting under the covers at the same time.

3. They are able to put their cell phone down

We know that many people rely on their cell phone for work or even to communicate with their partners during the day. However, when they get home, unfortunately, many couples end up paying more attention to apps and social networks than to each other.

If you feel like technology is pushing you both away, try establishing a couple rule like “let’s not use our cell phones after 11 pm” or “let’s not take our cell phones to bed”.

4. They take a few moments to show gratitude

Just as saying “I love you” does a lot of good for the happiness of the couple, taking a few minutes before bed to show gratitude also helps you to feel closer and stronger to face the day to day.

In this case, the tip is, every night, to find something specific that you have your partner to thank, and he should do the same for you. You can also vary by talking about something good that happened during the day that you were equally grateful for.

5. They don’t initiate difficult-to-resolve arguments at bedtime

You know that story about not going to sleep without having solved all the problems? So, it’s not entirely true. If one of you has an issue to resolve and already imagines that the conversation can be a little tense and will take long hours, it is better to leave the discussion for another day.

The reason for this is that the two of you will be tired and in a bad mood, so the conversation could end up in a big fight that didn’t have to happen that way. It’s not about sweeping problems under the rug, but waiting until the right time to talk about them.

6. They talk about their routines and their feelings

People who are in a happy relationship often say they can count on their partner for everything, including seeing them as a great source of friendship and support. So happy couples often talk about how their day went, problems at work, difficulties with the kids, etc.

It’s not about taking all your frustration out on your partner, but feeling that he represents a safe haven, a person with whom you can share your doubts and insecurities. At the same time, your partner is receptive to listening to what you have to say, without feeling pressured to come up with a solution to the problem.

7. They keep kids out of the room

Don’t worry, we’re not saying you can’t share a bed or that you should leave your two-day-old baby alone in the next room. What we mean is that happy couples, in general, tend to see the bedroom as a kind of sanctuary for the two of them, a place where they can connect and nurture intimacy.

Of course, children are welcome if they are a little sick or have a nightmare. The important thing is that the couple seeks to separate a space just for the two of them, even if this space is more emotional than physical.