What could be sweeter than a father who loves his daughter? Maybe one who cares more about her than her mother. However, it often happens that parents show little interest in raising their daughter, because they just don’t know how to do it or where to start. Well, here are almost two dozen simple but effective rules, compiled by the authors of a magazine for young parents.
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wash the dishes yourself
Cook, scrub the floor, wash the clothes: your daughter must see that a man can do all these things, and that this is a normal part of the family. The same goes for games: don’t hesitate to participate in dinners or watch the “weddings” of the dolls. Your girl’s happiness is more important than stereotypes.
spend your time with her
The most important piece of advice for being a caring parent: start from birth. Change diapers, carry, walk, play. For example, the father of a large family in England regularly organizes blind food tastings with his daughters to turn the family dinner into an adventure.
Answer all your questions
Forget the phrase “ask mom”. Dad also has to answer. What if the daughter asks something you don’t know? If this is the case, finding the answer together is even better.
The more responsibilities you take on, the better.
A woman who has given birth also does not learn everything she needs to be a mother in one day. She is learning. You too must do the same. Therefore, do not miss the opportunity to change the diaper or carry the colicky child in your arms. The more you do the better.
Call body parts by name
Studies show that children who know what body parts are called from an early age have no problem when it comes to contacting doctors. According to Laura Palumbo, an expert at the US National Resource Center on Sexual Violence, using the right terms helps a child better understand and accept their body, strengthens their relationship with parents and scares away potential bad guys.
Teach your daughter to play soccer
Or work with the electric saw: that is, you must share your hobby with your daughter. She will feel proud and a little superior to other girls. If the father is fond of something, if he loves his work, the girl copies these qualities and will also look for an occupation that will stimulate her.
Offer your wife help, don’t wait for her to ask.
It is very common for young mothers not to know how to ask for help correctly. They often fail to understand what is happening. In this case, action is needed. Don’t ask if you need help: take care of the baby, give your wife a chance to take a quiet shower or go to the doctor’s office. If you don’t get involved in your girl’s life right now, you will still be a father who sometimes goes out with his daughter alone on the weekends.
Dance with her without waiting for your wedding day
Daddy is the first man in a girl’s life. And if he takes care of her, she’ll take care of herself, and besides, she’ll know that she can always count on her “hero”.
Be a dad all week long, not just weekends
Although this is changing, the most common scenario these days is for the father to go to work and the wife to stay home with the baby. In the evening, after a long day at work, you often don’t have enough strength to be a parent. But the fact is, your wife is also exhausted during the day. So fatherhood, like motherhood, is a 24/7 occupation.
If mom goes with her to swimming lessons, go too
Don’t be afraid if there are no other parents there. This is an error. A father’s participation in major events in his child’s life—such as taking her swimming—is very important. In addition, knowing the size of your feet, clothes and other small details about your child is very useful and will undoubtedly be valuable.
Gently decline if your girl asks you to marry her
Between the ages of 3 and 6, your daughter may ask you to marry her. Very gently decline. Dad is the first man to whom the girl demonstrates her femininity. The older she gets, the more delicate situations can arise. Parents often feel ashamed, withdraw and sometimes reject their daughters, which affects the girl’s self-perception and self-esteem.
Teach him control and discipline
These are the things the father should teach. According to psychologists, the best time to learn them is precisely when the girl is playing with her father. Children tend to obey their parents more, trying to comply with the rules established by them. The daughter’s special relationship with her father is due to the difference between the sexes and the fact that his attention is generally more scarce (he spends a lot of time at work and less at home).
Don’t hesitate to kiss her
Don’t be afraid of appearing too sensitive. Showing sensitivity is good for psychological health (both yours and yours). Pamper her, enjoy her success, as the heart dictates, not paying attention to gender biases. There is nothing terrible about a sincere smile at the sight of the flower she painted for you.
Engage in matters that require more than your strength
It is believed that the father is a person who knows how to open what does not open, lift something heavy and run to the pharmacy at night. But in fact, the range of parenting is much wider. You can calm the baby in the clinic during and after vaccination, choose toys in the store, or blow too hot potatoes during meals. You can do it all!
Treat your daughter like a person
Listen to her when she wants to say something (although the child doesn’t yet know how). Don’t ignore it. Let your daughter express her love and affection. Don’t repress negative feelings, order or threaten her. In a word, be a man, not a strict observer who grumbles from time to time or becomes a threat, which makes her constantly turn to her tired mother.
Carry it on your shoulders
As long as it doesn’t weigh too much and your back is okay. And if your daughter is still too small, then don’t be shy about using a stroller or harness. Experts have long shown that this favors the psychological connection between father and daughter.
Teach her to accept a no
In the words of businessman and father Jia Jiang in his TEDx conference, when we are parents we try to do everything possible so that the child is satisfied with himself, but, in fact, we need to work so that the daughter understands: if someone denied her something, does not mean that person rejects you. It just means she refuses her request.
know your rights
Remember that you can take parental leave (in some countries, unpaid leave of up to 5 days and annual leave immediately after birth, regardless of how long you have worked at the company).
What would be your advice to men raising a daughter?
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