12 lessons we can learn from videos of amazing women

Often, to overcome a problem, we can count on the help of friends, who may have gone through the same situation and tell us about similar situations. Hearing reports and knowing that someone has also gone through that helps us precisely because they have the same experience and, therefore, can have greater empathy for the cause or also some lesson to get out of such a situation.

The videos of bloggers and vloggers, known as vlogs, are successful precisely because of this friendly language, as if it were a chat between friends. Many women who are popularly known in this environment use it to tell stories of problems experienced and thus advise people who may be in the same situation.

The quality of life and well-being advisor and creator of the blog Conquiste Qualidade de Vida, Dinioly Maldonado, together with the psychologist Sueli Maciel, active and founding partner of Transformare Piscicologia, say that vlogs of this type can teach us several lessons and can be the kick-off to solve a problem or get out of a situation that is causing harm: “Although presented in this informal way, well-argued content, with articulated ideas, and especially with evidence (examples of cases or their own, that bring truth to what is said) , they may be able to involve and convince the audience with lightness and relaxation”.

The videos below deal with subjects such as body acceptance, self-esteem, relationships and the deconstruction of taboos, with the aim of causing reflection, but always with a light and easy-to-understand language, characteristic of this type of communication. Check out 12 lessons we can learn from these amazing women:

1. JoutJout about abusive relationships

Identifying that you are in an abusive relationship can be very difficult. In this video, vlogger JoutJout, in a very good mood, lists characteristics that are part of abusive relationships, seeking to help in the identification of abuse.

The video also contributed to an online campaign against abuse in relationships, with the same name as the video: don’t take off your red lipstick. The campaign featured photos of women wearing red lipstick with the hashtag #don’t get red lipstick.

2. JoutJout about masturbation

Masturbation is still a big taboo for many women. Seeking to remove the taboo from the act, JoutJout lists several reasons for women to masturbate. The vlogger starts talking about the relationship between masturbation and self-knowledge of the female body. After all, those who know their own body can enjoy the pleasure much more when shared with another person. Solution for colic and insomnia are also listed by JoutJout, always with lightness and a lot of good humor.

3. JoutJout on expectations

In this video, JoutJout in a didactic way, explains that dealing with the expectations of others about your life can cause a lot of frustration. Only you know what will make you happy and trying to fit into patterns of happiness set by other people will only cause frustration. Often people who love you, such as your family, boyfriend or friends, may think they know what is best for you, but JoutJout points out that everyone has their own standard of happiness and only the person himself will know what really makes him happy. will make you happy.

4. Ju Romano on self-esteem

Self-esteem issues affect many women. Ju Romano explains in this video, that the problem with self-esteem happens when the person starts to see only characteristics that he considers as defects in himself, thus, not being able to see qualities. The vlogger gives tips on how to overcome these problems, telling her own experience with self-esteem problems and how she overcame it.

5. Niina Secrets about fat vs beauty

In this video blogger Niina Secrets opens a debate on beauty standards imposed by society, such as the relationship between being fat and being beautiful, being fat and working with your image on a fashion and beauty blog, among others. Fatphobia is still a reality and can cause a lot of self-esteem problems.

The vlogger’s message is to try not to care about criticism, because they will always exist and that every woman is wonderful the way she is, regardless of her physical characteristics. The part in which she makes the discussion is from 03:30 minutes.

6. Kéfera Buchmann on acceptance of the body

The vlogger tells her experience with eating disorders in this video and gives tips for those who have self-esteem issues related to the body. The message of the video is that following beauty standards set by the media can lead to eating disorders, self-esteem issues, frustrations and more.

The vlogger tip is to accept your body and be very happy the way you are. The vlogger also points out that no one is to blame for experiencing self-esteem issues and that expert help may be needed to help overcome the problem.

7. Andreza and Thais on the acceptance of curly or curly hair

Accepting curly or curly hair can be difficult, as beauty standards imply the concept that beautiful hair is artificially straight or wavy. In this video, vloggers Andreza and Thais deconstruct the term bad hair, which is often used to designate curly and frizzy hair.

The lesson of the video is that there is no such thing as bad hair and that every texture is beautiful. Vloggers also give tips for those who have straightened curly or curly hair and want to get their natural texture back.

8. Flavia Calina on infertility

In this video the vlogger opens a debate about what to say and what not to say to an infertile couple. Flavia points out that close and dear people often say things with good intentions and just wanting to help, but some things can end up having the opposite effect and sounding pejorative for the couple or person in question.

Flavia’s biggest tip is that the person close to the couple or person with a fertility problem is to be around and especially to listen a lot to the possible outbursts that will come. When in doubt about what to say, just play the role of listener and do not suggest procedures, as people in this situation certainly already know them and know whether such procedures are viable or not.

9. Ju about what not to say to a pregnant woman

Asking questions to pregnant women can be very common, especially when it’s a close woman, but you have to be careful. Ju’s tip is not to ask invasive questions or questions that could cause embarrassment to the pregnant woman, such as asking how many pounds she has gained. Contacts such as caressing the pregnant woman’s belly can also sound like an invasive act. When in doubt, think about whether that question would be appropriate to be received, if not, keep it to yourself.

10. Julia Jolie on women in programming

The programming area, and exact sciences in general, is still predominantly male-dominated. Being a minority in an area can be discouraging, but we need to remember that nothing is specific to men and that women can and should be included more and more in the programming area, if that is the desire.

In the video Julia Jolie interviews programmer Camila Achutti, who gives tips to women who dream of working with programming, encouraging everyone to follow their dreams. Camila is the creator of the website Mulheres na Computação, which seeks to encourage women to pursue careers in the field of technology.

11. Clara Averbuck on Female Rivalry

Female rivalry can happen in various spaces such as work, college or even friendship. It can often be imperceptible, but it is very harmful and ends up taking away the possibility of meeting new women and with that the possibility of new amazing friendships.

Clara Averbuck addresses in the video lessons she has learned over the years, in a conversation with herself. The search for male approval is also mentioned in the video and Clara’s lesson is that all women do things for themselves and not seeking approval. Clara is one of the creators of the Lugar de Mulher website, which always discusses various topics through the eyes of feminism. It is worth checking.

12. Maysoon Zayid on Living with a Disability

Maysoon Zayid is an American comedian of Arab descent who has cerebral palsy due to a medical error during childbirth. Maysoon starts the video by saying that she is not an inspirational person and that her disability is just one of her many problems. With very good humor, the comedian tells details of her life from childhood to adulthood.

The video addresses, in addition to the issue of disability, prejudice against Arab people, seeking to deconstruct it. Maysoon points out that disabled people are the largest minority and the least represented in the area of ​​entertainment. The comedian’s proposal is that there are more disabled people represented in the media, so that the negative view is fought.

We know that the deconstruction of taboos and concepts rooted in society does not happen overnight, so it must be a daily exercise. Dinioly and Sueli explain that taboos are formed by several factors, so they do not depend only on the subject “when we talk about deconstructing taboos, we are dealing with something very complex with roots that involve culture, society, family values ​​and the subject’s own recognition of their personal issues”.

Don’t blame yourself if you still don’t fully love some feature of your body, or if you still have certain taboos. With patience and calm it is possible to change all this. Videos can serve as sources of arguments, information and be a primordial part of the deconstruction process. “However, the help of a specialized professional is essential to deal with emotional issues in a more profound and lasting way”, concludes Sueli.