10 Ways to not let yourself be affected by offenses

Not always everything goes as we want. Daily we need to face offenses and situations that are out of our control. As a result, we lose control over our lives and become dominated by our own thoughts. But why not handle these situations in a different way? Why not stop feeling offended and just start living? Why not take an offense with a little humor?

Check out the tips we bring you today and overcome the negative feelings that surround us every day.

Unconsciously, people think that others always owe them something. We hope the world understands us, approves of us and gives us gifts. When that doesn’t happen, we take offense.

That’s not right: nobody owes us anything. We often invent an ideal world and get irritated with reality because not everything goes as planned.

Remember that not everyone needs to fulfill all of our desires. In this way, life will be much more pleasant. Being happy with unexpected gifts is much more important than being offended by the impossibility of obtaining something desired.

It is very common for people to include feelings in everything, exaggerating and distorting emotions. We see double meanings in games and are often fooled by our imaginations.

Try to look at the events that hurt you with detachment. Try to look at them from the outside, based on concrete facts. Often, things don’t happen to hurt us.

Did they tell you something unpleasant? Did they raise their voices? offended you? Mentally translate all this into normal language. Some people don’t know how to express thoughts in different ways, or don’t know other languages. Try not to be offended by what they say.

Mental translations from ‘offensive’ to neutral are good for your mental health and make you more relaxed and excited.

We take very seriously people who speak ill of us and do nasty things to us. We are offended because we think we are always dealing with people who are adults and intelligent, or even superior to ourselves. Will it be?

Try to think that your abusers are silly and mediocre and that their opinion doesn’t matter. Try to think that these people are just kids who want to get your attention. As you do so, you will realize that they are much more unimportant than you might think. And you wouldn’t be offended by children, right?

We exaggerate what the current moment means. We think that things that happen are forever, that anger will never pass. But how many times do we get offended and forget? It’s amazing how we suffer over insignificant things.

Try looking at that grudge in the future. Feelings will probably seem meaningless tomorrow, and it’s not worth stressing out so much today if we think about tomorrow.

Often the offending person is having a bad time, or is in trouble. Often, harming others is part of it. Try to understand the rude person. Maybe she needs help or support. You won’t be so bothered by nasty words if you find the reason for your offender’s anger.

We all suffer offenses every day. Each of us has to face unpleasant situations, and since we cannot completely isolate ourselves, we should learn to perceive resentment as an unpleasant and natural component of human communication.

You may just not react to offensive comments. Perceive them as the sound of a hysterical bird, or the barking of dogs outside the window. That is, as irritating, but natural. At some point all this passes.

You don’t have to face insults or pretend you didn’t notice the other person’s aggression. Sometimes, asking the bully directly and calmly about the reasons for his behavior helps put him in his rightful place. It is likely that he will not be able to answer you, feel embarrassed and simply walk away.

Often friends and acquaintances with ‘good’ intentions cross our borders with unpleasant advice or tactless reflections.

But the offensive comments and the unfunny jokes get us as far as we let them. Often, it’s not worth arguing with your offender. An alternative is to face the situation with humor and respond ironically to disarm the other person.

Think of that little insult that doesn’t leave you alone and makes you think nonstop about what happened. You put the rest of your life on pause just because of something someone else has told you. And it’s all just a senseless offense.

Talk to yourself. What’s the point of being offended? Does this solve any problems? If you’re a moral masochist, then that’s fine. But why take everything so seriously? Try to let go of the grudge and release the feelings of agony.

Do you think these tips will help you eliminate negative thoughts and face offenses better? Do you know other ways to deal with these situations?