10 tips to overcome loneliness

The life we ​​lead nowadays often ends up separating us from friends and family and with that loneliness has become a reality for many people.

And loneliness is not about being with no one around, alone. Loneliness can come with it, when you’re at work or in a crowd. It doesn’t just depend on you just being in your own company, it is characterized by moral isolation, because you know that no one is “there for you”.

This feeling can be very harmful. A recent study showed that people who feel lonely tend to suffer from more illnesses than those who feel loved and welcomed by family and friends.

But how to get rid of this terrible feeling? Life coach Brock Hansen listed to Your Tango the 10 points he considers essential for those who want to stop feeling lonely, check them out below.

1 – Loneliness is a feeling, not an immutable fact. When you feel lonely, it’s normal to look for justifications for it, such as thinking about the following: “Am I so uninteresting or boring?” or even “Why doesn’t anyone like me?” and in the midst of these thoughts, these assumptions can be mistaken for reality, when this is not always the case. So when you feel alone, accept the feeling and live it, don’t try to justify it. Just feel and try to think of good things for this moment to pass.

2 – Don’t isolate yourself. Although this is often the only desire in these moments, isolating yourself only makes the situation worse and can also lead you to negative thoughts about yourself. Instead, get close to people you have more freedom and intimacy with, whether it’s your mother, a friend, or your brother, for example. Don’t be alone.

3 – Realize negative thoughts and push them away. When you notice that you are thinking badly of yourself because of the feeling of sadness linked to the feeling of loneliness, reverse the process by remembering good things about yourself. Nobody has only flaws or qualities, so what you need right now is to remember the best of you and value it.

4 – Create anti-loneliness habits. Invite your friends out, visit your family, go to the movies with a friend, travel with loved ones. These habits will keep feelings of loneliness at bay and will also keep you away from negative thoughts.

5 – Take care of each other too. Getting busy thinking and helping other people can make you feel more welcome. By reaching out to others, we are helping ourselves. So talk to a friend who needs help, join an NGO or join a project to help other people.

6 – Try to meet people with similar interests. Getting to know someone who likes the same things as you is positive as there is a greater chance that you will meet not only casually but also in a planned way. Exciting conversations about a shared passion will make you feel good about yourself. Plus, you’ll be meeting new people and exercising something you enjoy.

7 – Practice a group activity. Although it is difficult at first, once you start, if the activity really interests you, you will find that it is not so difficult to be surrounded by other people while doing an activity. Yoga, water aerobics, book club and running club are some activities that you can start that will be good for your social life and for your well being in general.

8 – Don’t demand too much of yourself. With every attempt at a social encounter, you are doing an experiment. In some it will be good, in some it will be bad and in some it will be ok. What matters is trying. And don’t give up even when it seems like everything is going wrong, because at some point it will work out and you’ll feel good.

9 – If you have a religion, dedicate yourself to it. Many religions preach kindness, respect and love for others. Practicing these “rules” can bring you peace of mind and a warm feeling that will make you feel so good that loneliness will say goodbye. And even if you don’t follow a religion, try to follow these rules of good, which should be universal rules of collective well-being.

10 – Be curious and interested. Show interest and value what other people have to offer. By doing this, naturally they will also be more interested in you. When in a circle of friends, avoid self-centered chatter, talk about topics that interest most of you, and involve everyone in the group in the conversation. This will attract more people into your life, people who are interested in you and who will welcome you.